Looking for some help to settle what is a long-standing cause of bickering.
My wife (40) tells me (38) that I sometimes don’t show her her worth through what I buy her vs what I say we should buy as gifts for others.
As a bit of background, she doesn’t like jewellery, she doesn’t like clothes (as she’s dieting and yet to be at what she says is her ideal weight), she’s not a fan of perfumes, likes to choose her own make up but she does like chocolates.
For her last birthday, I bought her flowers and will regularly buy her like a cheesecake or something (which she is a fan of).
Going back to the recent flare up of this, she’s been telling me on the one had that she wants a box of chocolates. But she’s also dieting and feels like she’s behind on her exercising and we need to budget. We were discussing what we should get our babysitter as thanks and decided on a 30–40 budget. I then suggested we should also get her something like a box of donuts (which would have been free via my employer) and this brought it all back. Why would I suggest a sweet treat for our babysitter but not get her a box of chocs.
AIBU for not getting a small box of chocs? Should I pay no heed to when I’m being told she’s dieting and working out?
Looking for any help as I genuinely get very confused by this. As a bit more background, my employer a few months ago sent me a full box of chocs (that we split and I then gave more to her because I only eat choc now n then) and, just last week, I was told they’re sending me more and I asked her to choose which one we should get.
Am I making much sense?
MiseryLegs