Red flag or keen or over communicator. Is it me!

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I have been OLD for a few years. Meet some great people but some odd people. Texting is normally a 2 way street - you text they answer in a reasonable timeframe and conversation continues. Basically you respect people are not attached to their phone.

Recent guy seems nice but very keen. We hit it off on text but he texts loads. I am bit hungover today so not really into texting. Told him I was having a chilled day and will speak to him later tonight.

He said ok. But in the 2 hours I have been watching a film/snoozing he has 8 times texted random stuff. Not in a row but sort of ever 15 minutes. I haven’t picked up my phone so he can see the texts are unread.

I replied after 8th text a polite response to his texts. Then said was busy so will speak later - now got things to sort I am recovered! he said ok speak later He has now texted me another 3 times am unread from me.

Am I being unreasonable to think this is a red flag from a guy I haven’t met. Surely you would get the hint after 3rd unanswered text I was busy to reply.

Why do the over keen put us off and we chase tye under keen.

Don’t know about red flag but annoying as hell. I’d be sacking it off.

@OneRuleForThem it is. I have told him I am busy and got a text saying I will let you get in with things. That’s has annoyed me - I will let you!

"I will let you" is just a figure of speech.

It's reasonable to be annoyed about how long it took him to get the message, but not about the words he used to show he had it.

I would find this really cringey. He is not good at reading signs = coming across as desperate and over reliant on chatting with someone hebarely knows. And to keep texting when you aren't answering is naff as hell.

so why bother with someone you find annoying.
just be permanently busy.

Not sure its a red flag or a sign of anything sinister but it does suggest that he's very needy and quite bad at reading a room and will have difficulty with emotional boundaries.

Being that irritated with someone that early on is not a good sign. I'd sack him off, personally but at a minimum you should read him the riot act and tell him to chill out.

@RandomLondoner I guess it’s a figure of speak

@Wondergirl100 yes it’s cringey. I seem to met the desperate ones recently

@alexdgr8 I might be. He goes away tomorrow so hopefully calms down