to think that he's "left the wife at home tonight, she wont mind" is bad enough but....

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....it's worse when a) she aint the wife and b) it aint her home?!

For the 4th weekend running (EOW) that have come to stay with him he has said he doesnt want to go to the pub and then does. Then he says we'll have a couple and go....then "You go if you want to and I be there in about an hour".....this was at 7.30.

He isnt a massive drinker at all, he can take it or leave it so that isnt an issue, it really isnt about the drinking. But he does have a thing about getting chatting with people and being (as he puts it) "sociable". As an introvert who is happy to put her years in hospitality behind her, I struggle with this. Lockdown was perfect for me but I think that the opening up in the last few months has highlighted how different we are.

AIBU to just call it day? I dont think I am but as a previous victim of DV and EA I struggle to call it.

Yep, moving on...

I was happy being single and I will be again :)

Listening to music and Kellie Pickler Best Days of Your Life is doing it for me right now

Thanks again

I suggest you work on your self esteem and confidence. In the past, I might have tolerated that behaviour, thinking I was lucky someone wanted to be in a relationship with me. Now, I am a lot more confident generally, and I think I would be a lot quicker to move on. Good luck, it's not easy, but you deserve better than this

Putting the dickheadedess to oneside for s minute. It doesn't sound as if you're compatible. You need someone who wants to stay home all the time watching tv and reading the paper. So this thing is a none starter anyway.