To ask for help with my toddler

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squiddybear · 17/12/2021 22:56

I'm at breaking point

He's 2.5years and is a terror

Is constant tantrums if we say no and will headbut the floor, scratch us, slap us and throw things and then in the next second become the sweetest little boy.

He doesn't sleep he's up every hour, if I go into him it's a tantrum and head butting and screaming until DH goes in but he won't come into bed with us?

I'm tired and fed up this has been going on since the start of October prior to that he was a mediocre sleeper maybe you twice at most!

Please can anyone tell me this gets better I feel like I'm falling apart!!

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Babynames2 · 17/12/2021 23:02

Could be related to his molars coming in? The teeth right at the back usually come in around 2/2and a half. DD went through a bad patch of sleeping when hers were. And poor sleep (plus teeth hurting) may account for the daytime behaviour.

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squiddybear · 17/12/2021 23:11

Not that we can see and he isn't dribbling which is what usually happened. It's just a constant battle

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RaPumPumPumPum · 17/12/2021 23:14

I don’t have much advice as my DS was similar and we just rode it out, but I promise you it DOES get better and it will pass and be a memory one day.

Sorry that isn’t very helpful on a practical level!

Serenschintte · 17/12/2021 23:42

Is he getting enough exercise - swimming, walks etc? Little boys are a bit like dogs - they need exercising every day.
Any kind of physical attacks on you I would simply just get away from him if you can.
I also used sign language with mine - we made up our own signs as their language was a bit limited. It seemed to help a bit. We had signs for all gone, drinks etc.
That’s also the age my older one dropped his nap - then he slept better at night. Maybe worth a try ? If you haven’t tried it already.
But I agree it’s all a phase.
The head butting I would have somewhere you can quickly move him to he can’t hurt himself eg a padded area - sofa, matt, bed.
And any physical attacks on you then immediate removal from you or hug him tight. My older one was calmed by a tight hug when having a tantrum. My younger one it just made him more angry and he was better left to calm down without being touched.

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squiddybear · 18/12/2021 00:30

Thanks all. It's just exhausting and the head banging is so worrying especially when it leaves bruises

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shreddednips · 18/12/2021 00:37

@Serenschintte

Is he getting enough exercise - swimming, walks etc? Little boys are a bit like dogs - they need exercising every day. Any kind of physical attacks on you I would simply just get away from him if you can. I also used sign language with mine - we made up our own signs as their language was a bit limited. It seemed to help a bit. We had signs for all gone, drinks etc. That’s also the age my older one dropped his nap - then he slept better at night. Maybe worth a try ? If you haven’t tried it already. But I agree it’s all a phase. The head butting I would have somewhere you can quickly move him to he can’t hurt himself eg a padded area - sofa, matt, bed. And any physical attacks on you then immediate removal from you or hug him tight. My older one was calmed by a tight hug when having a tantrum. My younger one it just made him more angry and he was better left to calm down without being touched.

Absolutely agree about the exercise. Love my DS to bits but my god, he is like a spring bouncing around everywhere and just very full on. He needs a brisk walk first thing and lots of time climbing/kicking balls around etc. Plenty of exercise makes him a much happier, easier child and tuckers him out for bedtime 😁

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