Covid arguments

[octobersunshine]

Throughout the pandemic, I've been clear I've wanted to follow the rules and keep myself safe, whereas my middle sister and parents have been fairly lax and made me feel really silly for wanting to distance and doing what we've been asked to do and being quite emotionally manipulative.

Last Christmas, we were in an area of high restrictions and so I stayed at home with my toddler, and then he went to his dad's for the rest of the holidays and I was alone and really sad. My middle sister and her in-laws hired a cottage and 17 of them went to celebrate Christmas together completely out of step with the rules at the time.

Fast forward to this Christmas, and my oldest sister and her family are coming home from NZ for the first time in two years and I've not seen my nieces and nephews for two and half years nearly.

Since we've known Omicron has been increasing, I've scaled back all social events and cancelled work dos etc etc cos I really wanted to make sure we did everything to have a nice Christmas this year.

My sister and her husband in the UK has been going to numerous parties over the last few weeks and I suggested she might want to rein it in a bit. Anyway, their family has now got COVID which they've given to my vulnerable parents, and everyone is isolating for the next ten days. My sister and her family in NZ are now understandably not coming home as everyone but me and my son have COVID.

I'm really upset about it and raised it with my parents that I'd suggested we take a cautious approach and none of them did, and now my sister isn't coming home, and I'm alone again. My parents think I'm being a princess but I feel really aggrieved about it, particularly as they all had a lovely Christmas last year.

AIBU?

Octobersunshine none of us know how any strain of COVID will effect us personally or the ones we love. It's all to easy for people who show little symptom's to brush it off and make light of it, its akin to running across the motorway proclaiming its easy when you reach the other side.

Just know you, things could equally have been very different. You have done what you think is right and that`s all that matters. If they all think its trivial, tell them to go work in a COVID ward.

I for one would just be proud you stuck to your own moral compass and did what you decided was best for you.

Stupid is as stupid does.

YABU sorry, you can’t dictate how they live their lives. You could have caught COVID not going out at all, my husband did. It’s frustrating and annoying, and gutting that your Christmas plans are ruined, but they haven’t done anything that wasn’t allowed, even if it was daft.

I've got Covid OP, as has DH and our two DDs.

I'm fairly convinced that I caught it at the mass vaccination clinic I went to for my booster and flu jab, as there was no social distancing, and we were made to sit in a very overheated and crowded waiting area for 15 minutes post vaccines.

No one catches Covid deliberately, or passes it on. I'm trying to juggle working from home at our busiest period on top of the side effects of the somewhat pointless booster and flu jab.... and not having done a single thing in terms of prep for Christmas. My parents are now staying at home as they're too worried about being in contact with us even though we can stop isolating on the 23rd.

It is what it is.

It’s frustrating but you can catch covid anywhere so it isn’t necessarily because they chose to see their friends which is absolutely their right. My DD caught it at school then spread it around the house. We were all fine, just annoying having to isolate above all else.

Sorry but you have no idea where anyone caught covid, and you can only do what’s right for you not police other people. You’re basically blaming your family for catching covid, no wonder they don’t want to hear it

Have you got any friends you could see instead?