When you are not in the work clique and feel paranoid

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I am in a team of 15 some of the people behave clicky and sometimes this makes me feel left out and paranoid at work

For example they sit and what’s app each other and then say look at the pics and go over and compare them.

Go into the toilets to whisper about things

Earwig into managers conversations with others

I’m not the kind of person to gossip and have a busy job where the phone is always ringing and I can’t seem to catch up. but I can’t help but feel a bit out of it like I’m not good enough to be part of their special group

(I’ve always been a bit of a person who likes to be friends with everyone and
Not just one person)

Any advice to
Cope with this would be appreciated

How long have you been part of the team?

My team is like this now, although it never used to be- a few new starters developed it. Where I work has a fairly quick turnover of staff though, so I am hoping 1 or 2 will leave and just naturally break it up a bit. Not much you can do unfortunately. Just remind yourself you are there to work, focus on that and ignore them.

I was the last one to join I’d say about 2 years but I just focus and have conversations but don’t want that in my working life really/

WhatsApp is an absolute bloody minefield. So easy to feel left out if you are aware there's groups you're not in. I would struggle in this environment too, they don't sound very nice. New job search?

I have nothing to say except that i feel your pain. And I wonder why it's got to be like that when you're a grown-up. It's just so exhausting just to live, never mind that bullshit.

I'm not in the work clique either. I honestly don't care. I have real friends outside of work. I turn up. Do my job go home and don't give them a minutes thought what are you concerned?

I know this sounds like a cliché but don't take it personally. I have been through the paranoia of not being part of cliques at work and feeling left out. I have also been grateful when its all gone tits up or kicked off and i have not been involved. Remain professional but friendly as long as it doesn't deter you from performing and doing a good job it's best not to get involved. Teams and work dynamics change and this will pass don't leave just because of this.

@onedayiwillflyaway1 thank you. I have my own friends and a good social life and kids but when I am there I just think fgs and try and ignore but it is not always easy esp when they are the bosses favourites and I will never suck up to anyone x

@nicesausages already looking! And I’ve seen the dynamics change so much