For a month or so now I've noticed a frostiness from the staff at DC's pre-school (they started in Sept) previously lots of nice chat, little updates about how well they were doing etc. this seems to have stopped, but I can clearly see has continued for others. We've also been sent some passive-aggressive group emails which were clearly aimed at us and when they do speak to a general frostiness/brusqueness.
I've also noticed on the pictures they send round DC is either not in them or if they are always on their own, tried not to think too much about it. But this past week we've been sent lots of videos of them doing some christmas performances each day (just little songs etc.).
On each one DC is in the same spot at the far end of the room sort of separated from everyone else looking like honestly they've been shoved in the naughty corner. You can see all the teachers are gathered at one end with the younger ones with all then the older ones in a tight knit group, you can see the teachers are smiling and making eye contact and encouraging and cuddling the younger ones but not once does anyone look at DC or give them any encouragement.
I know if he was a problem one they would have 100% said something, we only had a glowing little parents' evening thing around 6 weeks ago. And we always stay at the end of the day and go over to the little park with lots of the others so I can see him interacting and playing nicely, if anything it's a few of the older ones whose behavior is questionable.
It's niggled at me before but seeing these this week has really unsettled me, and I don't know I can sort of see they feel the same as in the videos they look really sad/deflated.
Don't really know what to do and if I'm being paranoid, I kind of think you should feel happiness and pride at seeing your toddler's little Christmas performance not be crying your eyes and feeling very sad for them.