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LexieB · 16/12/2021 08:57

So currently started divorce proceedings against husband who had an affair with 28 year old. I have children pretty much 99% off time. They are 17,14 and 10. He’s now absolutely kicking off and saying he will only pay child maintenance which equates to £1000. Our mortgage,council tax bills etc come to 2.5k. I earn £750 and get universal credit of £897. He earns £4800. We were married 16 years he’s just so angry. I’ve never stopped the kids seeing him or meeting the other woman. I won’t be able to pay all these bills. He sees everything as his money. He’s paying for me to live in the house. I can’t help the fact he left and I’m left looking after the children. My mum died I have no support. I literally feel like I can’t take anymore and am just being bullied. My solicitor will obviously deal with it I guess but honestly what is his problem. It’s hard to feel festive with all this stress hanging over me. He belittles my contribution to the family and my part time job. Nothing I ever did was appreciated. I’ve given my all for my children and continue to do so but Im starting to feel really down. He won’t cooperate giving financial disclosure it’s just awful.
Sorry this is really boring but i’m really struggling

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FutureExH · 21/12/2021 21:03

@LexieB

I basically feel like I’m fucked! I can’t afford then to stay in this house our mortgage is £1400, council tax £250, then all the rates…..it just goes on and on

doesn’t help OW owns a house on 45k and her dads a millionaire

Actually this might help you a bit. Speak to a solicitor.
Itsnotdeep · 22/12/2021 06:43

speak to a solicitor OP. Just because he is telling you that you'll have to sell the house, and he won't pay maintenance, doesn't mean that's the truth.

sjxoxo · 22/12/2021 07:50

@FutureExH bravo 🙏 if I ever get divorced I’ll message you!!!

@LexieB you really do need to see a solicitor to help you through this & someone who can fight your corner xxxx

violetbunny · 22/12/2021 08:06

Given your eldest is 17 and presumably going to leave home in the next year (or maybe couple of years), could you downsize to a smaller house?

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