To think he should have her?

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DD(8) has Covid, fortunately so far I'm testing negative.

She has 6 days left of isolation. Due to the current rules about contacts not being required to isolate if they test negative, work are pressuring me to go in.

I asked my ex yesterday, DDs dad, if he'd look after DD whilst I worked, he is refusing on the grounds she should be isolating and he doesn't want to get Covid. I know this but I don't know what else to do. He's her Dad, surely it's up to him to help with this?

He lives with his girlfriend, their DD and her older son.

YANBU- he should look after her he's her Dad!!!?

YABU - he shouldn't have her.

Maybe not, and I’m not saying the child should go, but I’m sure he’ll decide it’s his business if OP loses her job and can no longer afford to feed or house their child hmm and it will be because the child is unfed. But it's not his responsibility to help her keep the job.

Why would OP knowingly spread covid and let her child potentially kill their father?

Can he come and look after her at your house? That would be the only compromise really, and even then it's up to him if he wants to be in contact with someone positive.

@ldontWanna

Can he come and look after her at your house? That would be the only compromise really, and even then it's up to him if he wants to be in contact with someone positive.

That's ridiculous. If OP is perfectly healthy then there is no need to get dad involved and potentially infect him too. One of the benefits of two homes is that one of the parents can be kept away from a child with covid meaning they have less chance of losing both parent.s

Take LFD tests daily, say it's positive and you are getting a PCR test, then repeat when 'that comes back negative'. Bound to be lurking germs with a positive person i the house, it's not as if you can avoid a 6 year old. Your work needs to be a little more understanding.

And they have every right not to pay you

Yes but that’s a problem the government need to address no every single parent of school age children.

It’s been a shambles from the start.

I think if he was single/lived on his own and worked from home or something then fine - no real risk other than to himself to help out. Even then its still fair game if he doesn't want to get it himself or is vulnerable.

But to potentially infect a whole household. YABU