Not going to a wedding because of omicron

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So I've got a wedding on the 18th December, for a close friend from university. We also have a nearly 5 month old baby who would be coming with us.

I'm not sure how many people they've invited but I imagine it'll be around 100.

I'm starting to get really scared about covid and don't really want to go anymore, but I'm worried it'll cause fall out with that group of friends and the bride.

What do I do?

I mean, I think anyone should understand if you say you’re not comfortable doing, especially with a new baby (but just give your friend notice now, so she can try and cancel your meals / rearrange the tables)

Equally, if you think she’d kick up a fuss (then she’d not actually your friend anyway….) just say you’ve got covid and therefore HAVE to isolate for 10 days

Say you've got covid tbh

You say you won’t go becouse you have a 5 month old and are scared. You prioritise your baby. I wouldn’t be saying if my 4 week old baby didn’t end up in hospital with RSV, it was the scariest time of my life. From then until now we didn’t see anyone except grandparents and we have a christening in December which I also declined- for the same reason as you. Covid and viruses. Would I love to go? Yes! But my baby takes priority and if people don’t understand it then I don’t really want to see them anyway…

But why are you getting scared? I think you may be affected by the media and not thinking rationally.

@tttigress she’s getting scared becouse she has a small baby! Have you got a small baby yourself? It’s not just covid. It’s also RSV and many other viruses doing rounds this year

I wouldn't. Too close to Christmas and just too risky with that many people. But just let her know asap - I sincerely doubt you'll be the only people not going.

Thanks everyone, like PP just said - im scared because her immune system isn't mature. It feels like a serious risk generally to be around that many people, and with the cases rising so rapidly I feel I'd never forgive myself if she got poorly.

I guess I have to hope this friend is understanding!

@tttigress

But why are you getting scared? I think you may be affected by the media and not thinking rationally.

Oh bugger off. If you're not navigating a pandemic or a surge of RSV infections with a small baby in tow, you have no right to tell someone they're not thinking rationally. I think you may be affected by the shit flowing from your mouth instead of your arse.

Hi OP!

I'm having my wedding on the 18th. Not quite that many people though, I'm hoping most people will come but am aware some may not. Personally, I think the media is whipping everyone into a frenzy and it's terrible how the media are dealing with the news (just constant scare tactics!), but respect that people deal with things differently.

In your friends situation, she should be aware of the current times / risks to others. That's part of holding a wedding during covid, she needs to be prepared for people to drop out (either due to worries or covid itself!). I'm not going to take offence to people not coming, it's their decision in the end and I'd rather they didn't come than came and felt scared / stressed etc.

Send a polite message explaining your worries, your priority is your DC of course. You can always meet up in the new year and celebrate!

I've got a 3 month old and I'd go but it's all about what you're comfortable with and if you're not happy to go then that's that.

I'd go, put an FFP2/3 mask on which will protect you, and leave after the ceremony if you don't feel comfortable staying for the meal/night.

I don't think the media is 'whipping everyone into a frenzy' when the current incidence is over 520. That's huge, add Omicron in the mix and partially vaccinated teenagers, no mask enforcement... The situation isn't great.

I’d want to go if it were me, but I’m not you! I think lots of people will be dropping out of everything

If you don’t want to go don’t

Chris Whitty is just saying you have to choose carefully what socialisation you do

Say you're concerned and would love to celebrate with the B+G another time, send a card and gift if you want but don't worry. It's only a wedding, not worth getting stressed about

I already said in PPs that I think you’re totally right but a nice idea would be to maybe send them a card and a bottle of Prosecco and/or a box of cupcakes/donuts before the wedding - swishing them a fabulous day! That would make you feel nicer about it x

Decline now, don't leave it any longer.

Thanks everyone, the bride was absolutely wonderful and said she completely understood! Going to get them a big wedding present!

@tttigress

But why are you getting scared? I think you may be affected by the media and not thinking rationally.

🙄

I think this is the first thread where I think the person in question has responded!

@MrzClaus are you the friend?

[quote OnlySantaCanJingleMyBells]@MrzClaus are you the friend?[/quote]
😂 sadly not! No one has bowed out of mine yet (fingers crossed we make it to Saturday!)

I think a lot of people will be doing the same, OP. I know a few people who are fairly relaxed about socialising and not been overly worried about covid who have cancelled, or are going to cancel, their attendance at parties and weddings over this weekend and the following week. It sucks, but it's not a great time to be in big crowds with this new variant spreading so quickly.