There is NO good option for contraception

[Tastyyellowbeef]

Hear me out when I say every option is a bit shit in its own way.

2 beautiful children. Definitely want another but not at the moment (we could do with moving house first, and DS is only 19 weeks)

I can’t have anything too high in hormones because I have OCD which is really set off by most hormonal contraception- something lower in hormones would maybe be ok but that would be progesterone only and apparently progesterone is the worse one for affecting your mood anyway. This rules out the pill, mini pill, injection, implant…. Most of them tbh

Did have the Cook before but fuuuuck did it hurt so it’s put me off.

Due to several losses TTC really messes with my OCD too so ideally I’d like something that doesn’t have a delay when you stop it.

Condoms… need I say more 🙃 haha

have I got ANY options? Natural family planning is an option but I have always been a bit irregular anyway so don’t think it would be very reliable for us

Sometimes I hate being a woman 😂

Abstinence? Non PIV sex?

Diaphragm?

What's wrong with condoms?

Did you have the coil before having children? Just wondering, cos I had one pre kids and nearly passed out with the pain of insertion. Had two more since having DC and hardly noticed it! Something to do with whether your cervix has opened before, I think...

Did have the coil before that was supposed to say!

Not detailing any sexual exploits with a Chef LOL

NFP can take into account irregularity. People tend to think it's just counting but actually it's more about looking for the signs that you have ovulated. That can be more complicated if you are breastfeeding though. If you wanted to try it, I would recommend researching the methods and choosing the best one for your circumstances, and go to an actual teacher to learn how to do it.

The real downside is that you have to abstain when often you are most interested in having sex. Some people will use condoms during those times only.

I think you aren't wrong though, for some people there are not great options. It's not easy to stop the human body doing what it wants to do, especially if you want it to go back to working again later on.

I agree. We’ve been using condoms for years now. They’re the least bad in my opinion.

@LobsterNapkin I don’t disagree with NFP in general but as a nurse I’ve seen soooooo many people pregnant that were using it that it’s really put me off. I wouldn’t trust it myself because I know how up and down I can be and I just know I would be that person who their body goes “surprise!” 😂

And I know I could just ask a colleague about this as a nurse but work on a cardiac ward currently so not sure they’d be very helpful 😂

[quote Tastyyellowbeef]@LobsterNapkin I don’t disagree with NFP in general but as a nurse I’ve seen soooooo many people pregnant that were using it that it’s really put me off. I wouldn’t trust it myself because I know how up and down I can be and I just know I would be that person who their body goes “surprise!” 😂[/quote]
In my experience most NFP failures are because people decide to fudge things. Usually if you can't pinpoint ovulation, you know it, IYSWIM?

Though, I don't think it's a good choice if you couldn't manage another pregnancy in a pinch, though maybe that goes for most contraception. I found it worth learning just because of the insight it gave into my menstrual cycles, anyway, so I am biased toward learning how to do it.

But I think that as far as other methods, condoms are the best by a fair margin.

What about diaphragm, or cervical cap, or condoms used with NFP?