Do you think this is OK?

[Herewegoagain84]

We have a new nanny - had one before who was completely amazing, so I don’t know whether IBU and too fussy. She’s been with us only a few weeks, and a few things have been building up, but as I said - perhaps I need to let some things go.

Today she took the children on a play date to her old area (about 25 minute drive away), to an old nanny friend. It transpires that they basically watched tv all day while the nannies chatted - my eldest was also asked to have a nap (she’s 6 so obviously doesn’t, but was put on the sofa… and also old enough to recount the day to me). My DD was thrilled she’d watched paw patrol all day “except for lunch”.
I just get the sense the nanny wanted to see her mates and the kids were just left to their own devices (not necessarily in an unsafe way). I’m not OK with that, but AIBU and this is normal and I’ve got used to having a completely attentive ridiculously good nanny?

@Herewegoagain84

Oh, and I asked that she let me know plans at the beginning of the day / where they’re going to be etc. she was extremely defensive and said why was I scrutinising her - I was quite taken aback, but as I said, it’s all added up to knowing it’s best we part ways.

She sounds useless. So what you're scrutinising her. I mean you're hardly doing that by asking what she has planned for the day, but since she's so agitated with you asking then I'd assume she's not got anything planned or just thinks the job is a skive. £14 net an hour, I'd expect much better.

@Cuddlywaterfall we found her through a Facebook group. As a nanny veteran, if you have any tips or ideas where we can source another nanny (and quickly!) let me know . You’re right though, no point dragging it out for ages if it’s not working.

@Tired1234567890 that’s my thought too - I thought it was normal to know what or where my children will be in a day…! Never mind - we’ve dealt with it now - onwards and upwards.

Hi @Herewegoagain84 I found ours on childcare.co.Uk and care.com. Look for ones with several references and make sure to verify!
This one is taking the piss. And for what it's worth I would be worried about choking too!

Koru kids is also good for after school care.

Good luck!

@shouldistop

Was your 6yo not in school today?

Obviously not since she was with the nanny

Like all services its about supply and demand. If it's an employer's market then you can let her go, safe in the knowledge you will have lots of other options. If on the other hand nannies are hard to come by, then you may be best sticking with her a bit longer on the basis that's she's not perfect but your chances of securing better is slim.

[quote Herewegoagain84]@HoppingPavlova I wouldn’t describe myself as batshit! It’s not necessarily the choking part of it, but more the fact she’s sat alone for half an hour at the table - which I think is a sociable time of day and would encourage chat etc.

Thanks so much guys - putting it all together I’m just not that happy so going to let her go.[/quote]
Completely agree about the mealtime sentiment.