Not sure what next steps to take - AIBU to consider nanny?

[Sleeeeeeeep]

Unsure of what to do. I have a 13 month old who doesn’t sleep and everything I’ve read indicates she ‘should’ be.

I’ve been looking into options and a nanny to sleep train her is one. Has anyone done this? I’m wary of throwing a lot of money at the problem for it not to work.

Yes. We did. It was worth the money.

Have you tried sleep training?

YANBU to consider anything that might help. I would look at sleep training first though.

Depends what you mean by not sleeping. I’m on 3rd baby and all of them all really slept through at around 14 months (all were breastfed and getting off them night feeds was hard.) They were waking a couple of times a night. With the first I did a relaxed version of cry it out which worked in 3 nights, with 2nd I tried cry it out and it was a disaster (ended up co-sleeping from 12 months to 14 months and then he just started sleeping through without me). Third got to 14 months and without doing anything different he now sleeps through. Look up some sleep training techniques and decide what you are comfortable with and try them before paying a sleep trainer

Some babies sleep well, some wake a lot. There is no should. Mine were both frequent wakers until age 3. We survived, albeit we did night wean both at 18months as I was getting quite desperate with tiredness by then

Is his sleep and actual problem for you or do you feel pressure because you’ve read he ‘should’ be sleeping? If he’s waking but you are managing okay, then you might not need to do anything so drastic! All children sleep eventually!

But if sleep is a real problem then look at ways you can gently tweak his sleep. I recommend Lynsey Hookway on FB/Insta for practical but responsive sleep advice.

A nanny doing sleep training seems harsh? Your child wants/needs you. That’s a good sign of them having a positive attachment to you. It is not you or your baby having done anything wrong. There are so many developmental milestones between 12-18months and even up to 2+ that it is understandable some baby’s need comfort.

Do what is right for your family but don’t feel you have to sort his sleep because he ‘should’ be sleeping better.

I really am tired and struggling with lack of downtime in the evenings. Vaguely tried sleep training but don’t think am doing it right. Hasn’t worked anyway.

You could try a night nanny to just spend the night with him.

I did this once when I wasn’t well. The night nanny was able to make observations and suggestions (the main one being that the room was too light). She wasn’t a sleep trainer.

For conquering sleep, we backed LeBoeuf and her ‘Precious Little Sleep’ podcast: www.preciouslittlesleep.com/category/podcast/

@Sleeeeeeeep

I really am tired and struggling with lack of downtime in the evenings. Vaguely tried sleep training but don’t think am doing it right. Hasn’t worked anyway.

I mean this very gently... if you haven't tried it properly it isn't going to work

My son only started sleeping properly when he was 4!!! 4 years of waking 3-6 times every single night..we tried everything with him..nothing worked..
He sleeps now but he is staying a single child..
There is no "should" with sleep and young children..

How often is she waking?

If you’ve only vaguely tried then no doubt it didn’t work.

If you’ve plenty of money then all means get a sleep night nanny.

If not, then have you tried getting baby in a routine? How much do they nap? Are they just eating for comfort in the night?