Name change for this, as it’s massively outing.
A bit of background: I run (and own the majority of) a business that I built almost ten years ago after marrying DH. The business is in DH’s industry. He is extremely good (even a genius) at what he does, but has zero head for the business side of things. (For example, when he’s tried to run things on his own for a few days here and there when I’ve been sick, we’ve ended up paying out many thousands each time in mistakes he’s made). He’s well aware of this and prefers not to run things as he says it gets too expensive, which is true. I’ve now put things in place to stop these gaps if I get ill.
I don’t love the industry, and he knows this. But I’m very good at what I do, and I’m in it for the long haul as he well knows. I’ve put a tremendous amount of my own money and nearly ten years of my life into building it into a very successful enterprise that’s now on the brink of a breakthrough that would mean we would finally get a chance to start enjoying all our hard work.
Now to the point. I’ll start by saying my DH has ADHD and has known since he was about five. He’s been on various medications over the years, and his latest one doesn’t seem to be working for him, especially since his job means he works from home. He has problems focusing, won’t get to brushing his teeth until after noon, etc. He chatted with me and decided he would ask his doctor about changes to his meds. All fine there.
But then he started talking out of the blue about how work in general is really busy (true), and how medication just won’t cut it for him and how he would like to replace what I do with a (and I quote), “Filipino assistant” to keep him organized because they “come cheap” and “Alan has one.” 
(Alan is a client, so now I’m a bit 
.)
I stopped him immediately, saying how inappropriate he was being; but he had no problem with either his massively inappropriate comment or, frankly, any other part of it. He was also very surprised to hear that no, I wasn’t keen on being replaced by a random person who he thought he could hire for only 1-2 hours a day to do my entire job, and he kept insisting that I don’t seem to like the industry and therefore should love the idea, plus medicine alone won’t be enough to keep him on track (it has in the past, but they had to change him to a new one due to health effects).
He thinks I’m being unreasonable for not jumping on the idea, and apparently he doesn’t think I’m “proactive.” 🙄
I have no words.