To 'hide' my bf of 18 months on sm

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Due to my husband's ability to get awkward/ oppositional and difficult personality.
My husband had an affair and bolted nearly three years ago.
I have since met boyfriend. He is divorced. I am separated and papers are to be served once lawyer draws them up.
My husband is very pissed off that I have met some one else and have moved on.
Possibly because his own partner will not meet our kids and my boyfriend has met our kids and has some some fun activities etc with us.
I have a lot to lose financially. My husband has nothing only50% equity of our joint home( at present, my counsel wants me to apply for 80% as he has not paid a sum of thousands , as agreed , for kids education and medical bills in the last year and is untrustworthy financially)
I hide my boyfriend on sm and with covid restrictions, we don't socialise much anyway so we don't swan around socially.
We are involved in each others family's and have met some friends of one another.
I feel bad for hiding him and he isn't much In the he way for gushing declarations of love either. It's just not us as a couple , but at the same time ; no one would know that either of us even know one another apart from the odd tag. I would like to acknowledge us over Christmas or New Years but wonder if it's a bad idea ? My am of choice is fb only as I have many genuine ad trues friends that live very far away, we rarely see each other or our family's and friends so that's how we maintain photo contact. I'm not into relationship statuses or romantic fake photos . I just love that I can maintain friendships and acquaintances through its use .
Am I being unfair or am I protecting myself against the wrath and jealousy of cheating ex who may use my own relationship against me, in divorce proceedings?

Anyone please ?
WWYD in my position?

Seems fine to me, but then I wouldn't consider telling FB or similar my relationship status anyway, and I don't have photos there.

Just make your SM private and block/hide anyone who would show STBXH.

If you make EVERYTHING private and you only have people who are genuine friends on your Facebook, I don't think their should be an issue.

I came off Facebook years ago though as didn't trust their privacy- someone quite dangerous to me managed to see something of mine despite me only having people that I actually knew and trusted as friends on there, and everything set to private, I still have no idea how and I barely shared anything on there tbh. If you know how it all works better than I do and you trust it, go for it.

Most people seem to add every Tom Dick and Harry they've ever met in their lives nowadays, if that isn't you, it's probably one of your friends.

why not block your husbands access to the social media? Lock down your profiles so he cannot see anything you are up to?

I must admit though, I have deactivated Fb this week and do not miss it at all, its been fab.

I think it's best to hide it for now. Declarations of relationship status on social media really is unnecessary as an adult and as you said yourself you have a lot to lose financially so don't rock the boat at least until the dovorce is finalised. Your real friends will know of your relationship so putting up photos and check-ins or whatever is unnecessary. Sit tight.

I think you're sensible not giving the ex ammunition if he can use it against you.
If he knows you're happy in a relationship then a acknowledgement won't surprise him.

Why put any stock in what you have on social media? Seriously, who cares if relationships are advertised on social media? If you want people to know about your relationship and acknowledge your new boyfriend, have a conversation with them. If you have a good relationship with your boyfriend, that's all that matters, not how it "looks" on social media. As for your ex, just cull your contacts on social media and block him.

I don't have an ex husband and I didn't have my BF on my social media til we were engaged. it was no one else's business - the people i wanted to know knew.

FYI i am currently pregnant and I have zero on there about being pregnant