Struggling with my ex

[Parliament89]

Really struggling with my ex at the moment.

He has the kids 3 night a week, me 4.

He is saying he has been to Citizens advice, and he only has to pay maintenance, and only has to have the kids overnight, ie 6pm til 8am, and has no other responsibility.

He is saying he is no longer willing to pay for childcare outside of these hours and it should all fall on me.

He's also threatening to take the kids off me which is causing me severe anxiety.

Has anyone has any experience in anything like this? Any help appreciated!!!

No real advice sorry apart from get yourself a lawyer and only communicate with him via that for time being. Oh and a statement - what a fucking prick.

Op no one in citizen advice would have told him that he is chancing his luck. Get a solicitor and if he threatens to take the kids off you again log it with the police.
Best of luck

Ignore him , he's a twat . Honestly, take it from me , don't communicate with him other than a text or email with pick up/ drop off times for the kids , it really takes the anxiety away.
I'm guessing he doesn't want to pay , or spend his free time looking after kids , that's why he's threatening you so that you just go away and leave him alone.
I'm having the exact same with my ex - currently in Paris on holiday whilst telling me he has no time or money for DS
I'm taking him through the legal channels in the new year , I can't make him want to spend time with his son but I sure as hell can get my boy what he's entitled to.

Mine stopped paying for childcare when he moved out, I'm not sure there is anything you can do unfortunately. I haven't found an answer

So he wants them full time and to take them off of you but only wants to be a parent from 6pm-8am 3 nights a week? And expect you to pay for childcare?!

What is he trying to gain here? Is he just trying to threaten you/make you feel insecure?

What a pathetic little person (not going to call it a man). Just ignore him where you can, but I'd be tempted to laugh in his face.

Do seek legal advice though, and make sure you keep any threatening texts to hand.