Hi I'm here because I'm absoluetly at a loss and have no one else to turn to. I think my dad has been covertly abusing my mom my whole life. He's never directed the abuse at me (although I guess you could argue he's been abusive to my sibling in the past) and he's so charming to everyone else that I guess I only recently woke up to the way he really treats my mom. Mom just lets him walk all over her and accepts that he is 'just the way he is.' After an argument he'll go silent on all of us for days at a time and we'll just be left walking on eggshells around him. He can be so kind and funny but when he treats her like this its like he's gone evil, i try to confront him and he just lowers his voice and all goes all whispery about how we're wrong and 'do you not think i had a reason for acting the way i did.' Im only in my early 20s and living with them still, I just need to know if anyone else has experienced anything like this. I cant let it go on anymore Im trying to figure out how to make it all okay but everything I google is either about abusive romantic relationships or children who were abused by their parents, neither of which really fits the position Im in rn. If it helps im in Ireland. Thanks in advance for any advice. xx