AIBU - should DH go to this party (Covid)

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Hi all, DH has a Christmas party on Friday. It’s not work. It’s his hobby’s Christmas drinks.

I am pregnant after 5 years of TTC, 6 rounds of IVF. I’m on steroids so I’m immune suppressed and then also more vulnerable as pregnant in general. Im fully vaccinated but haven’t had the booster yet.

I just can’t decide what should be done. Initially I said go. It’ll be fine. Then we both were thinking are we crazy risking me getting sick when we’ve been through so much to get pregnant and covid could give me a high temperature and harm the pregnancy. Then I go back to thinking it’s a few drinks it’ll be ok. Then back to thinking just skip it there will be other parties! This is a once off and it’s important.

To complicate things further, my cousin will also be at the party as he is in the same group and I will be seeing him at a family gathering a few days later - so again should DH just go if I’m mixing with someone from the party anyway (although I’m sharing a bed with DH so more exposed to him).

Can’t figure out if I’m being unreasonable or not. DH doesn’t seem to mind either way. He hasn’t been pushing to go. He’d obviously like to go though and he will be missing out on getting to know the people in the group better.

I would ask your DH to give it a miss. The risk and consequences far outweigh the fun of a few drinks, sadly.
My DH skipped his work Xmas drink last Thursday, and yesterday morning one of his colleagues announced he's picked up covid on that night out

Thanks everyone for your congratulations and the advise! DH is not going tonight and he also spoke to cousin (we’re v close) saying we were going to have to cancel the family meet up and also not see cousin over Christmas just in case and cousin kindly agreed to also miss the party too as he said he’d prefer our meet up and our other plans for over Christmas.

@UncomfortableBadger any update from your situation? Hope it gets sorted too.

The more you mix, the higher the risk so perfectly reasonable to agree to one event and not another.
Covid is associated with risks of poor pregnancy outcomes so you do need to take care.

I'll keep this short. DH went to his overnight Christmas party with over 20 co workers when COVID cases were 6000+ despite my anxiety about bringing it home to our infant son. Now cases have increased to 20000+ and DH wants us to isolate from all family for 3 to 4 weeks including my parents. DH still works in a high risk job and risks bringing covid into our home everyday. I disagree with us isolating from everyone as it will be myself and my son who suffers but DH refuses to see it from my point of view. The only people I see are my family. We are all vaccinated. Thoughts appreciated.