No birthday cake :(

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I was my birthday last week. DH is a bit rubbish at birthdays. I now buy something I want and he transfers money to me, then on the day I get some token gifts from him and the DC's (bubble bath chocs etc). We went out for a family meal that he paid for. All good.
But, no birthday cake. Out of everyone in our house I think I like cake the most. I love cake, especially kids birthday cake (sponge jam buttercream and loads of icing). I make sure that everyone else has a birthday cake, which I either make or buy depending on how busy I am. Cake and candles and "happy birthday to you". But nope, not for me. I even made a jokey comment last week thinking he'd take the hint. He didn't.

I'm nearly 50 FFS. AIBU for feeling sad about this? WIBU to ask him to get me one even though it's over a week after my birthday?

Does he know you wanted a cake? Just as I wouldn't think to buy a cake for an adult, we get birthday cakes and candles, and sing happy birthday, for the kids, but neither of us would be expecting a cake. I bought one on a whim for my partner one year (mainly because I felt like cake 😂), and he liked it, but thought it was a bit odd. 🙈

Oh and YANBU to feel sad, definitely ask for one if you want.

It matters and has significance to you.

He can show you he values you with a simple gesture, and the fact he hasn’t is very hurtful

Looks lovely dementedpixie