Just looking for some advice going forward. Please don't judge. This is my first ever post! I will give some background to the story and try not to make is an extremely long post!
Myself and my DH have 2 boys together; DC1 is 2 and DC2 is 8 months. We have been together together 7 years. My DH has another DC who is 11 that isn't biologically his but he raised him as his own. He stays with us every weekend.
My partners son is an only child and has been very spoilt. He has all the latest of everything and wants for nothing. He has his own room in our house which I designed as one of his favourite games because I wanted him to feel at home.
However, he is very nasty towards my 2 year old (who gets so excited to see him and always want to play) so it breaks my heart when he's pushed away. It's got to the point where I don't trust him to be around him without one of the adults. He ignores the 2 year old regularly, snaps at him for everything even if he just asks a question and refuses to share anything with him, and then lies when he's caught being mean to him.
He doesn't like seeing my partners parents, and everytime they come over he actively lies and pretends that he's ill and lays on the sofa with his eyes closed to avoid a conversation with them. Then when they're gone he admits that he was faking it. He does this a lot to my 2 year old as well so it's not just a one time thing.
We try really hard to do nice things at the weekend as a family but DSC never wants to do anything. So I end up going out as much as possible when he's there as i will not tolerate my son being mistreated by him so I'd rather take him out of the situation. We make dinners that he says he likes and then he never eats it but he always sneaks down to get sweets.
The list goes on. We don't have him this weekend and I'm honestly looking forward to having a weekend where I don't have to always keep an ear out and worrying about what's going going happen next.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation and if so, does anyone have any advice on what to do?
Thanks for listening to me ranting. I just needed to get it out! :(