To struggle and have to distance myself a little after babies are born

[daisydoh]

Just that really. I disconnect when people have babies.

I'm not having much luck conceiving and I wish people the best when they do (even if it doesn't sound like it!) but until other people's babies get older I find it really hard to be around pregnant friends and friends with newborns or even engage with them and converse about it.

I think because it's so consuming for them, the novelty hasn't worn off yet so it's all the topic of conversation and I just find it difficult.

What do you do in this position?

YANBU. It took us 3.5 years to conceive DD2 and I felt the same. I think it's ok to distance yourself as it really hurts doesn't it, but try to put on a happy face at first and have a good excuse for staying away until you feel better. Covid has made it far easier to say you feel a bit under the weather so will keep distance/ postpone visit just in case. Sorry you're struggling and hope it happens for you soon

@kitkatsky thank you. It's tough, I don't get sad often but sometimes it just comes at me like a wave.