Someone give me a slap 😩

[Oopsie123]

I need a wake up call, a slap in the face.

I have had sharp meeting with someone recently that I was seeing 10 years ago, it was a huge shock as it was the first time I'd seen in those 10 years. I got pregnant back then and miscarried. When I saw him I was taken aback but he stood there and tried it on with my friend right in front of me, she then hated on me for 'cock blocking' her. I met up with him then he tried it on, I said no then it was 'we were having a laugh thought we were mates' bullshit.

Anyway, it's effecting me more than it should - I've started smoking again, drinking more (ensuring not around DD). I'm just feeling very sad and deflated. I know it all sounds child like and teenage-ry but I'm hurting and want someone to just give me a right slap and tell me to move on

Move on OP. You have a child to think about, those behaviours won't help you or your child. He's a fuckwit and not worth it.

It's cos you had a miscarriage that you feel emotional forget him, he's a twat !

Thank you Roasted. I try to make sure she isn't affected and she never sees me in bad state but it will only happen soon

You're so right.

That was meant to be definitely not feeling festive!

You're also right @tenredthings

Just let yourself process it without acting upon it and hopefully the feelings will all pass

If your friend knows the history, including the miscarriage, she is being very insensitive. He is someone to avoid at all costs. I wouldn't get into any sort of communication at all. YANBU for feeling strange - it's likely raked up buried feelings re miscarriage.Be kind to yourself. Have you considered accessing some counselling to work through your feelings? Or even talking it through with someone who cares about you? You and your daughter are what matters now.

@Wide I've tried this approach, he was and still is a huge weakness of mine. He really broke my heart and I was just never expecting to see him again, it really knocked me for six

@Looubylou she does know but it's all about her all the time. She doesn't even realise, it's just she was happy to get attention from someone who seemed like a nice guy. I told her what went on and she still actively looked him to contact him. Thank you, I will look into that. My daughter is all that matters.