To be annoyed by this?

[Killerpinkflamingo]

I am in my final year of a masters degree, and currently in the depths of essay writing for deadlines around Christmas and January.

A guy on my course, who I know reasonably well but not best friends with, text me last night to ask if I fancy going for a few beers on Thursday to break up the deadline monotony. I text back to say sure, sounds good.

He then responded saying “can you organise it with everyone, I’m always organising stuff and I’m sure it would be great coming from you!”

There’s 30 people on our masters course. So he just texts me out of the blue on a Saturday night, to tell me to organise a night out for everyone - WTF?

Was I being unreasonable to tell him no and to think that he’s being a bit of a cheeky fucker?

Tell him you're not doing his wife work for him.

How's much organisation does it take?

'hey, we are planning to meet for a beer on Thursday at blah at this time. Would be great if you could make it'.

He could have done that in one message to everyone rather than one to you alone.

Yanbu.

@StuntNun

Tell him you're not doing his wife work for him.

Don’t tell him that.. just say no sorry I can

How odd, he could’ve just sent the initial message to everyone? Do you have a group WhatsApp or something?

He can organise it!

Thank you both! We get on ok normally, but when he sent that text I was really pissed off - don’t ask me to go for a drink and then tell me to organise it!

Of course you aren’t being unreasonable to say no. Surely you know that 🤷🏻‍♀️ He asked and you can decline. It’s not really much of an issue.

@LawnFever Thats what I don’t understand! We have a group WhatsApp - so why didn’t he just send it?! He said something about him always having to organise things and it would be better coming from me. Very strange!

I'd have been pissed off too. Cheeky sod. Hope you have a nice time - but if it's his idea he should do the donkey-work. Lazy git- "it would be great coming from you" indeed. Ye gods... x

My thoughts exactly @REP22

Is there a chance he asked because he liked you (and fancied one on one drinks?), then panicked? Just a random thought!

As I see it, you have two options.

Tell him no.

Or screenshot his messages, post in the group chat with 'anyone fancy it?'

Still cheeky, but out of curiosity does he normally organise everything?

@MrzClaus I see where you are coming from, but we are both in long term relationships, so I hope not

He has organised a couple of nights down at the pub this semester, he’s definitely one of the more social extroverts on the course.

I wasn’t particularly bothered about this night out anyway because the lead up to Christmas is already pretty busy with other things. That, combined with his random text announcing that I should organise it, has just made me say no to it anyway

If he’s always the organiser he might be a bit fed up of nobody reciprocating. He still shouldn’t have dumped on you though.

I agree with forwarding his message to the group chat and asking if anyone wants to go

I wouldn’t be forwarding it to the group chat, you will end up being seen as the organiser.

Good you said no.

He didn't execute it well but I can understand him being annoyed at always having to be the one to make the arrangements. I've had friends & boyfriends like this, where I always had to not just sort stuff but I always had to be the one asking to see them! It gets depressing after a while