To ask how to go NC?

[HelpMeGoNC]

Sorry for posting in AIBU but I’m just at a loss as to what to do.

My mum is an alcoholic and extremely abusive verbally and sometimes physically, my sister is also always on her side and harasses both me and my DH on a regular basis (I mean making fake Instagram accounts to message lies about me, all that kind of stuff.)

I have tried to go NC before but they always find a way to get to me. It also helps them that I have a very high profile job (think regularly appear on TV but not a celebrity!) and so when these clips go up on YouTube they comment and spread more lies about me.

It’s making my life a living hell and the police aren’t interested as my mum just lies and manipulates her way out of it and my sister backs her up, so I don’t know what to do. Last week my mum turned up at my house drunk and pushed her way into my porch, pulling my coat hook off the wall and generally trashing the place before I could push her back out the door, she then smacked me in the back of the head.

Like I said, the police aren’t really interested and I’ve blocked them on everything but they keep finding ways to contact me or my DH.

What on Earth do I do? I’m constantly an anxious wreck when the door goes or my phone pings. I want to give up my job and run away but it’s a job I’ve worked so hard for and love so much.

Please help me go NC

Isn't that harrasmenent op??
They can and should do something about that.
However I would gradually withdraw and not make a fuss.
Do whatever you normally do but gradually do less and less

I forgot to say I got a Ring doorbell this week to try and capture it but I know that even drunk she’s far too clever and will find ways to avoid it. I feel so so sick that they’re trying to destroy my life.

@Imdreamingofapeacefulxmas I have tried reporting it as harassment but they say there’s no proof and my sister backs up my mum and says I’m lying.

I don’t make any contact with them, I just try and live my life but then every few weeks they come after me in a different way.

No contact is when you don't contact someone. It sounds like you already don't contact this woman.

At the end of the day someone is turning up at your house and smashing their way in, drunk. This should be taken very seriously by the police whether it's a stranger or your mother. Harassment online is still harassment, even if it's a mother.

If a strange man was bashing his way into your house or leaving abusive comments across the internet, they'd have to act.

Escalate. Reiterate your insistence these be prosecuted as the crimes they are, or you'll take it a step higher - whatever that is, reporting to some regulatory body or whatever. At the end of the day you don't get a free pass to do crime just because you're related to someone. They must act.

I know you shouldn’t have to, but I’d move and not give them or anyone who knows them your new address. That’s one less stress. 💐 for everything else, it sounds awful

I think you need more cameras than just the ring doorbell, for starters. Including one inside your home, in your front hall.

Two, talk to a lawyer about what's going on. Many places have stalking/harassment laws. A lawyer or police non emergency line can help you determine what the standard is for such charges, and how to best go about protecting yourself.

It sounds like you’re already NC, so your question should be “what do I do to stop my mother and sister stalking and harassing me?” And the answer is to obviously escalate this legally.

You might find that them receiving a restraining order is enough to sort them out.

I know what you mean, I’m nc with my sister haven’t spoken to her for 2 years but she still tries to contact me and turns up at my door (I never answer) or sends things in the post for my children, don’t want to inform the police personally but it is frustrating