Worrying so much more in second pregnancy

[misshoney37]

With my first I was young and quite naive. Ignorance was bliss in a way and I had very chilled pregnancy.

This time around I'm older and so much more aware of the things that can go wrong. I'm only 20 weeks but already terrified about reduced movements. I only started feeling movements over the past week or so but now if I have a quiet day I immediately think the worst. I had my 20 week scan this week and everything was fine but yet I still worry. I'm sure it's not doing me or the baby any good at all.

Was anyone else like this? The movements thing in particular I foresee being a real source of worry for me over the rest of my pregnancy. I know it's important to be aware but I don't want to become obsessive either. At this stage movements would still be quiet sporadic anyway wouldn't they??

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My 1st pregnancy I never worried etc. Then I had a miscarriage so when I got pregnant again after that I was worried every day. I had loads of scans etc then they said baby was small, then it was normal, then small again etc. I was glad when I finally went into labour but she was then born too quickly on my living room floor with the cord round her neck

I feel completely the same. I had reduced movements a lot in my 2nd pregnancy after 1st ended in miscarriage so had biweekly monitoring from 30 weeks.
Im nearly 28 weeks now with baby #3 and constantly worrying about reduced movement. My midwife said by 28 weeks a pattern should set in but up until then it can be a bit more sporadic.
Definitely speak to your midwife about your worries and concerns. I had an awful pregnancy last time with hyperemesis and the hospital (antenatal) were fab! This time I've voiced all my worries and anxieties to my midwife and theyve been really supportive.

Thank you, it's still so early that I don't think they would do anything even if I did mention reduced movements at this stage. Logically I know myself that it's not going to be in any sort of pattern yet, just the odd kick or roll here and there. But yet I still worry when I don't feel anything for a while.

@misshoney37

Thank you, it's still so early that I don't think they would do anything even if I did mention reduced movements at this stage. Logically I know myself that it's not going to be in any sort of pattern yet, just the odd kick or roll here and there. But yet I still worry when I don't feel anything for a while.

Its definitely given me anxiety and did even at 20 weeks. Do you know if you have an anterior placenta at all? I had one in my last pregnancy and made it very hard to feel kicks which made my anxiety worse wheras this time its at the back and I feel a lot more movement. Try having a cold glass of water and something sweet and sit down for an hour. I find that gets baby active.

I know how you feel, I got pregnant so easily with the first, then had a miscarriage which was a real surprise. Pregnant again now but won’t properly relax until the baby is here

Definitely. Could wait for my second to born as I was so anxious. Had more issues with the second pregnancy - previa, breech, bleeding at 17 weeks, law papp-a. Was so relieved when she arrived healthy. She's 10 now.

*couldn't wait

Me too, with DD1 I wasn't worried at all and a bit naive really. This time with DD2, I've just constantly worried, we found at 19 weeks that she has a health condition that thankfully won't have much impact on her life but every day is just dragging and I just want her to be born now so I can see her and watch her.

I was a mess of nerves right up until I saw my second when she was born. My anxiety decreased so quickly after birth. It is so hard but you just have to take it day by day