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Would you have a Christmas party next weekend

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Christmaspartyornot · 12/12/2021 12:21

Just that. It's about 30 or so friends and neighbours including children for mulled wine mince pies etc.
We planned it, invited people and have lots of RSVPs. We've asked everyone to do LFTs, but are thinking that in the light of Omicron we should probably cancel.

What do you think?
What would you do?

OP posts:

RobinPenguins · 13/12/2021 10:02

@backtolifebacktoreality

*RobinPenguins * "Yeah, we know we might all be stuck in fucking lockdown again so need to take the opportunity to see friends and family while we still can."

Or perhaps it's people getting together like this that causes another "fucking lockdown"!

If omicron is as transmissible as is claimed then even a lockdown like last January won’t stop it.

So yes, I’m going to enjoy my December. Feel free to blame me in January, I don’t give a shit.

IgneousRock · 13/12/2021 10:04

What are your Christmas plans OP? If one of your family testing positive would really screw things up then I'd cancel. If not (ie if you were planning a small family Christmas anyway) I'd go ahead with the party, ask everyone to test beforehand and make it really clear that I won't be offended if anyone decides not to come.

HalfWomanHalfMincePie · 13/12/2021 10:08

Personally I would cancel because I wouldn't want to attend myself and risk Christmas.

However, if I was still willing to host, I'd gather views about everyone LFT before attending while making it clear it was ok for anyone to drop out who did not feel comfortable partying.

What I wouldn't do is judge anyone who went ahead with it, or anyone who didn't. I think this entire shit show of a pandemic is difficult for all and most people are just trying to do the right thing, albeit with differing views about what is right.

BringMeTea · 13/12/2021 10:16

No way. Foolish or selfish. Probably both.

Sallycinnamum · 13/12/2021 10:18

Similar to another post, we were supposed to go to a gathering last weekend.

Everyone did LFTs beforehand yet 6 out of the 20 have all tested positive since the party (in three different households).

I personally wouldn't take the risk at the moment as it would completely ruin our Xmas.

Flamingpantoufles · 13/12/2021 10:24

Ah, we're trying to make exactly the same decision. I have asked for LFTs but am now thinking maybe we should just ditch the whole thing. Interested to know what you decide! I don't think there's a wrong or right and you should ignore all this "selfish or stupid" nonsense - you're not forcing anyone to attend and you're asking for LFTs to limit risk. Of course you can't eliminate risks associated with gathering but where do you draw the line?

LakieLady · 13/12/2021 10:26

I wouldn't have one and I wouldn't go to one, either. LFTs aren't reliable and I wouldn't want to be responsible for ruining anyone's Christmas.

gannett · 13/12/2021 10:37

We're hosting next week, but just a few friends over for drinks (under 10). I trust them all to not need to be told about LFTs. I am personally not worried about getting Covid (double jabbed, booster imminent, likelihood would be mild symptoms anyway) or passing it on (no plans to see elderly or vulnerable people over Xmas). Absolutely no judgment on anyone who wants to give it a miss for whatever reason.

Have reduced socialising all round this month, I think being out every night would be silly - I've chosen to prioritise seeing the people I most want to see. (Work Xmas drinks could fuck off, for starters.) Making your own decision about risks does not mean ignoring Covid completely.

One of my best friends cares for her vulnerable parents and we'd do LFTs before seeing her and be led by what she deems safe.

Soopermum1 · 13/12/2021 11:16

I wouldn't host or attend, I don't want to be in isolation over Xmas and miss seeing my family, like last Xmas.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 13/12/2021 11:18

Not sure I would

IgneousRock · 13/12/2021 11:21

You wouldn't be responsible for ruining anyone's Christmas (except your own). Anyone who attends must know the risk and is choosing to come anyway.

GreenPumpkins · 13/12/2021 11:29

I would still do it and I'd be happy to attend if I was invited to one. I think we could all be banned from mixing again shortly so I'm trying to get all my group socialising in before that happens. I'd completely understand if others chose not to come though and I'd be prepared for people to pull out on the day.

GiantHaystacks2021 · 13/12/2021 11:55

In short, no.

nanbread · 13/12/2021 12:06

@IgneousRock

You wouldn't be responsible for ruining anyone's Christmas (except your own). Anyone who attends must know the risk and is choosing to come anyway.

Maybe not in theory, but the guilt I know some people have felt if they've passed it on has been horrible

PlanktonsComputerWife · 13/12/2021 12:08

I was wearing a mask and using sanitiser in the charity shop this morning, but I couldn't help noticing they were being snippy dickheads to some old ladies who tried to come in without a mask. Like really stupidly aggressive.

I am so over people using this virus as an excuse to be a cunt to other people.

wtfisgoingonhere21 · 13/12/2021 12:13

I wouldn't go op.

Too close to Xmas.
I've not had any annual leave from my job since April and this is our busiest time of year

If I go off sick between now and Xmas salaries wouldn't get paid before Xmas

I also have ten days off with dh and d teens and am really looking forward to pootling out dog walks cafe stops and the odd meal out depending on what happens.

nanbread · 13/12/2021 12:30

I am so over people using this virus as an excuse to be a cunt to other people.

I don't think this is what is happening, i think some people feel scared and they are lashing out in fear.

shinynewapple21 · 13/12/2021 12:44

I wouldn't fancy being with 30 unmasked people inside a house - unless you have a large house OP - if the children were playing in a separate room and adults split between a large living room and kitchen, it may be OK. 30 people in a venue OK as you can sit at your own table and choose how close you get to others . In my house - no way!

orinocosfavoritecake · 13/12/2021 12:53

Sadly, I’d cancel.

takemebacktothe80s · 13/12/2021 13:31

My husband had lunch with his colleagues last week. This shocked me because they haven't seen each other since last March. They aren't in the same bubble, and work from home and yet suddenly they are meeting for lunch. I don't believe either it would have been well ventilated and very busy as he was all afternoon. It better not jeopardise our Christmas.

Dontforgetyourbrolly · 13/12/2021 13:34

I would as it would not threaten my personal circumstances - we've just had covid !
I'd understand other guests might have to drop out .
I wouldn't be moving it outside either , that's more like a punishment than a party.

toomuchlaundry · 13/12/2021 15:34

Have you seen this?

twitter.com/vicderbyshire/status/1469354766560026624

SivvyPlath · 13/12/2021 16:07

People test positive for covid. Shock horror!

notanothertakeaway · 15/12/2021 20:22

I'd cancel, definitely

NoNotMeNoSiree · 15/12/2021 20:26

I'd have the party.
Or if invited, I'd love to come
I wouldn't get upset if some didn't want to come though, as personal circumstances and all that.

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