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AIBU - is this social anxiety?

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Rightgroove · 11/12/2021 14:36

there, i'm looking for some insight I think. I have diagnosed depression and anxiety. Generally it's pretty mild and I manage it with sertraline. Since the beginning of the pandemic i have noticed that I am more paranoid than before about my friendships and my judgement generally. I find that I am often worried that friends don't like me, and find I am extremely anxious about saying no to anyone or expressing my needs to friends. For example today I have bowed out of a Christmas party because we decided we can't afford to risk getting covid and cancelling Christmas plans with my in-laws whom we haven't seen for months. I also asked a couple of close friends whom i am seeing later this week if they would mond taking a LFT before we meet. I think these requests are both reasonable but none of my friends have responded so far and I catastrophising in my mind - assuming they will be unsympathetic etc. Basically i have no confidence in my decisions, feel like my friends don't like me, and generally second guess myself all the time. Despite there being no evidence that any of this is true outside of my head! Has anyone else experienced this? Particularly since the start of the pandemic? Any thoughts would be gratefully received, thanks

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Rightgroove · 11/12/2021 16:27

No reply Grin clearly everyone does hate me!

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Vates · 11/12/2021 16:33

I have been diagnosed with social phobia since my late teens. I have a fear, extreme fear of embarrassment of taking part in almost all social interaction. I cannot talk to or even make eye contact with strangers. I can't make general conversation and wait to be led even with those I am close to such as my family. I don't have a job. I don't have any friends bar one best friend, I have acquaintances mostly the people I liked at school and who liked me who I would talk to. But there are varying degrees of social phobia.

quitecontrary123 · 11/12/2021 16:55

There may be an element of social phobia but also prioritising seeing family etc.? I do the same now, avoiding situations in the run up to seeing my parents etc. to limit my chances of being pinged. Not seeing them for so long over national and then local lockdown was so tough. I think I have developed health anxiety over the past 2 years and this also impacts on my enjoyment of socialising.

Wintersnuggles10 · 12/12/2021 10:45

I'm very similar to you. I don't know what its called specifically but I get paranoid. I also like to cancel alot Sad

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