She doesn't even like me does she....

[mrssclauss]

My friend is a strange one.
Sometimes she is the bestest friend then other times she acts like an enemy.

I haven't been well with my mental health for a while now and she has had her troubles too.
I left a really good job and obviously things are a bit tight now.
She applied for PIP and asked would I help fill her forms in for her,so I completed them for her and told her what evidence she needed.
She got awarded it thankfully and I was over the moon for her.
She then started saying things like
Oh I'm sorry I know things are tight for you but up treat you now and again
Oh I've got a big back payment I'm going shopping ..I know it's hard for you right now so don't want to rub your nose In it etc

Anyway I spoke with my GP who said she thought I qualified
So I also applied (didn't expect anything,but would be grateful for anything)
I got awarded it too
Told her and said it was such a relief
Her response
"Oh well"

Then I replied saying I was going to use it for some private CBT sessions as the nhs has a long wait.

She didn't respond for a hour then replied
"Sorry was busy sorting out my meds,people with really anxiety issues have to go through a lot"

She knows how bad my anxiety is and how I'm affected ..I felt like she was throwing shade.
I said I was going to try and go to our local Christmas markets if she wanted to come
Her response
"I can't say yes to that today as I don't know how I will feel..the perils of real anxiety"

Aibu or is she trying to throw digs at me here ?

Have I done something wrong ?

Personally I would have assumed tbe oh well was a typo for oh wow. Then the second text be morning about mutual issues.

Well done for getting the support you need, OP. As others have said, I would step away from this friendship - your friend sounds resentful and jealous. Definitely don't initiate any more contact and, if she contacts you, reply only if her tone is kind and supportive (which is what you deserve).

Congratulations:) you have made some big steps to improve your own well being. Its not easy to make the first steps, seeing doctor etc.
Your friend sounds awful and not what you or to be honest anyone needs.

@mrssclauss

Thanks everyone I wasn't sure if I was being paranoid I'm a massive overthinker

I thought she was,it's like she wanted me to have nothing.
Even tho I helped her with hers and was genuinely pleased when she got the extra support.
I could say the same for her anxiety but I'm well aware anxiety is different in everyone.

I suspect you will a bug upturn in your mental health when you ditch this one.

The CBT is a really positive move. Well done.

She clearly thinks having anxiety is a competition and she is desperate to win. Weird!

Does she by chance have another mental health issue? Like a personality disorder. It sounds like she's saying she has "proper" mental health issues and you "just have a bit of anxiety". That's how it's coming across to me. I saw similar whilst I was in the psychiatric hospital, it was almost a rift between those with schizophrenia/BDP/CPTSD/suicide attempts, then those with "just" anxiety and depression. It's wrong but I know it is common thinking of those with mental health issues.

Its great you're getting CBT, I use my PIP for 1-1 therapy. It's bloody expensive but does wonders!

@GrannytoaUnicorn

"Those with REAL Anxiety"

Thanks for the explanation. I missed that part of the OP. It sounds like the "friend" is trying to say that the OP doesn't have anxiety but she does.

That doesn't sound like a supportive friend and you'd probably be better off stepping back from the friendship, at least while you get your own mental health in a better place.

Take a step back from her and her REAL anxiety. She does not sound like a friend.

Don't contact her.
She is being a terrible friend. Competitive suffering is awful.