Am I being rude or is DH being a bit unreasonable?

[Wrensrobinsandsparrows]

I don’t know if I’m being a bit rotten to DH. We have young kids. I WOTH all week, DH also works FT from home.

At the weekend I do want a little bit of down time. Not loads. This morning I’ve tried to watch a bit of TV in bed with the baby (DH slept in the spare room) he came in and just lay there. OK.

So then I tried to go into the bedroom after the mornings housework to have a coffee and he followed me and just lay on the bed trying to talk to me. It wasn’t a conversation but just things like ‘you’re drinking coffee.’

If you live with someone do you have to be WITH them all of the time? I don’t know if I’m being a bit rude in wanting this or if DH is being stupidly needy.

I also think kids of people use cooking as a way of getting a bit of peace.

Er, lots of

Did you actually say to him you wanted the time alone?

I don’t think either of you are wrong but if DH wanted time alone and was irritated by me being there, I’d be annoyed if I found this out after the fact and he hadn’t just said.

I wfh and some days will have lots of calls where I’ll chat to colleagues. But other days I might not talk to anyone and on those days I can be a bit “talk to meeee!” with DH after work has finished. But equally you aren’t wrong to want a bit of time of yourself.

Fuck that, I need my space.