To ask if you get on with your siblings

[Friendswithyoutotheend]

Do you argue?

We get on better as adults than we did as children. Ever since we didn't live together really. Middle child and myself were particularly close after uni until he died.

yes very well. through some tough times as well.

There's 2.5 years between me and my sister we've always shared the same friendship group buy growing up our personalities we're polar opposites and we argued a lot. I was fiery and a pain in the arse tbf and she was easy going. Now we are older we are actually more alike, and since becoming mothers we've almost become like 2nd mothers to eachothers children. I love her 2 like my own and vice versa, we are very close, she's definitely my best friend.

Get on loads better as an adult - I absolutely loathed him as a child (I loved him and we were close but he was very good at pushing my buttons). He’s still kind of a dick now, but not in a way that ever affects me so we get on fine. We’ve also found more common ground as we’ve got older.

I don't speak to my siblings at all.

We didn't get on as kids either.

They are boys, and therefore they were worshipped by my mother. Sadly for her I was born with a vagina, and shunned by her and her boys.

I call them golden balls now childish but haven't seen them for years.

2/3 of them o

Very different personalities and different lives. Live in different countries. We don't not get on, there is no animosity, but we have nothing in common so while we can pull together for family stuff and get on well when we meet, there is no phoning for a chat type stuff and, harsh as it may seem, over time the less effort I can be bothered to make when it's not really reciprocated. Both parents have died so nothing really bringing us together these days. The cousins don't really know each other as we live so far apart. That may sound sadder than it is, it's really not sad, if we were in the same town for any reason and met for a meal or a drink we'd get on fine and have a good time.

DB and I never got along as kids, and we have absolutely nothing in common as adults. He's always been neurotic and ridiculously sanctimonious. He's gone completely hysterical over Covid and has passed the hysteria on to my mother, with the result that both of them are now acting totally irrationally and have been since early last year. I was struggling to justify maintaining any sort of contact with him before this latest nonsense, but this is the final straw. I'm NC with both now because my life is far simpler and more enjoyable without them in it.

People used to say 'you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family', and while that's essentially true, you can choose to have nothing to do with people who don't enrich your life in any way regardless of the fact they are a relative.

Yes we argue. I have argued with everyone I loved at some point. I have argued with my siblings more than any other group because of proximity, genes, love and shared experience.

I get on v well with my brother as he lives around the corner but my sisters live on a different continent so just the occasional text or Facebook. My stepsister lives in Paris and I see her quite regularly, well I did before this Covid thing.

I argued a lot with my brother when we were younger but that petered out in our teens. Now we get on well if we meet at family events but we don’t contact each other in the in between times. Not because we hate each other, just because we don’t feel the need to be in touch regularly. But when we are together we have a very easy going relationship and share a similar sense of humour. I probably see him about once or twice a year in normal times. I’ve seen him once since March 2020. I remember being at his house once years ago and his wife and her brother were ultra competitive over a board game to the extent that they were bringing up who did better at school and at childhood hobbies. I was quite shocked that they were like that as adults because I felt my brother and I had grown out of that kind of relationship when we were about 12 and 14.

My two half siblings I get on well with and have never argued with, probably because they were teenagers when I was born so we never had that kind of picking on each other childhood siblings relationship that my full brother and I did.

I have 3 brothers and we are not close at all, we get on ok if we see each other but we all very different. Once my parents have died I am afraid to say I don't think we will be in regular contact.

@Friendswithyoutotheend why do you ask OP?

2.5 yrs between me and db. We always got on fine and were close. Certainly my best memories of up to secondary age all have him in the middle.

He moved to uni at 18 (so I was 15) and never moved back home and we generally lived in different cities then in different countries so didn't see each other very much and we were both shite at keeping in touch directly but would always coincide visits to the parents. We both lived in London for about a year at one point and would often go out drinking (very found memories of an all day sesh on Upper Street in Islington when we met for a coffee at 11 on a Sunday and he ended up putting me of a bus at 5pm then running up the road waving bye bye at the top of his voice).

He died about 7 years ago and it is the worst loss and grief I've experienced (including losing a parent). I miss him every day tbh.

We are both in our 60's now and it wasn't until our DM died that we started to get on. We had several long talks and discovered that DM had used a divide-and-conquer method of keeping each of us close to her but apart from eachother. Neither of us could believe the things she said about us to each other.

Now she and I are good friends and sisters and neither of us ever mentions our DM - we don't think we will ever be able to forgive DM for the 56 years of our lives that we spent without each other, each believing the other to be someone we're not thanks to DM's whispered poison darts.

We don't argue at all. Neither do we speak to each other.

I have 4 sisters. We all live in different parts of country and 1 overseas. We meet up twice a year and chat on phone. We never argue.

My siblings (1 brother, 1 sister) are two of my closest friends. We all have our own friendship groups, but we socialise together a lot with our partners, and our lives are pretty intertwined, as are our children’s. I cherish the relationship we’ve got.

We occasionally get pissed off with each other, and there’s no one in the world more brutally honest with me than either of them, so if I want a straight answer to the question ‘am I being unreasonable?’ I’d ask them.

Nope. I'm no contact with mine. So are my parents now. He resents the fact I was born and that all the attention wasn't on him at all times. He has also done some horrendous things to me and my family. Don't know the last time I saw or spoke to him and I drive past his house several times a week too.

Yes, DB 1 is much older than me, never a cross word. We are in our 50's and 60's now and still fairly close.
DB2 is older than me but not by as much and we had some fairly savage arguments as teens BUT he was also my utter champion if he thought I was being treated unfairly. Also still close .

Yes very well

Nope not spoken in 14 years

No. My parents raised us to resent one another. I was younger, so she was forced to look after me, and i was supposed to obey her. Of course, neither of us were happy with our given roles.
As adults we don't really have much to talk about.