To feel invisible at work

[TheLasrStraw]

Rest of team each brought in something festive today but forgot to tell me to do the same. I don't think there was any malice, they just overlooked me.

In a previous job I've been the one who someone forgot to get the gift for in a Secret Santa type thing.

And I've even had people sign a leaving card for me which never got posted.to me!

Why do these things keep happening to me? I bet you employees subject to disciplinary action get treated better!

Hmmm this is an odd one.
Nobody would be forgotten in any of the teams I'd worked in.. where are the managers in all of this ?!

It doesn't take a lot of effort to send out a quick teams group message saying we are bringing in bits on X date.

How is your work relationships generally?

Have you fallen out with the person who organises these things or have you declined to get involved in the past and so they’re now just assuming you don’t want to? Find your voice and tell the organisers that you seem to be missing out - maybe ‘Can I check that my email is on the group email list as I don’t seem to be getting the emails for team activities?’.

Yep, had this. Was leadership at a big school. One year a monitoring timetable came out with all the leadership monitoring dates on and their names at the top, except my subject and my name. I complained but it never got rectified. Then, they were offering training and the other leadership person in my area kept talking about all this training she was invited to. Eventually I asked the organiser if it was open to all and they sent me an invite. It was definitely open to all leadership but they just hadn't included me on any of the emails about it, so I assumed the other had been incurred but I hadn't. I managed to attend the last session but missed months of training.

I think it's because I'm an introvert. I just don't stick in people's minds because I'm not the one jumping in at meetings and things. I've decided I'm not changing, though. I'm not ignored in my current job but I think that's because of where I work now.

Yep it's happened to me too. Like people thinking "I wouldn't mind" and saying things like "aw we didn't get you a card as you are that easy going" ie you weren't there to organise it...

It was Christmas jumper today as well and no one bothered to message me before hand about it. I just shrug it off. A friendship group of mind, but not colleagues who would barely remember me a year after I left!

Hmm that seems strange. Even if they didn’t like you leaving you out is childish

Are you part time? This happened to me all the time when I returned from mat leave on a part time basis. I was team ghost.

Yes, slightly part-time but other part-timers were informed.