To ask how much you would give an 11 year old for Christmas?

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DS has said that now DN is getting older, he’d probably prefer money in his bank account to put towards something he likes.

I have no issue with this as the last couple of years it’s been a struggle to know what to get him. However, I have no idea how much I should put in. I’m really not very plush, especially at Christmas as I have so many to buy for! I usually spend between £30 & £40 on him at Christmas. Would sticking this in his account be considered tight?

Sounds perfect to me.

Sorry, that should be DSIS!

DH's nephews are around that age and they get £20 and a selection box each. £30-40 is generous in my book.

There's no right or wrong really, it just depends how much you can personally afford and would normally spend.

My gran used to put £20 in a card for my Christmas until I turned 18 (I'm only 23 now so not ages ago) and I always appreciated it. I'd definitely not think £30/£40 was tight!
Why not give £30 and a bag of sweets or something?

£20 and chocolate sounds good

My DCs get £20 from relatives if they opt not to have a present. £30/40 is fine.

That's a pretty generous sum. I've got a niece and nephew and have probably spent £30-ish on gifts for them. But I'm very fond of them, and see them at least once a month.

My 11 year old would be thrilled with £30
Serious dough to a pre-teen

I would start at £20 and then you've got wiggle room to increase it as he gets older.

That sounds a lot to me. I would have thought £20 would be adequate and even £10 would be perfectly ok. Can you give him the cash in a card. My son always enjoys seeing the actual money, rather than it going straight in to his account.

I give my nephews and nieces a tenner! I don't think that's even particularly tight

Kids can't and shouldn't seriously expect to get £40+ from say 3 sets of aunts and uncles, 2 sets of grandparents, plus more from their parents? That's madness.

I guess it depends how many you have to get for and how many they receive from, as well as what you can afford obviously. But any more than £20 cash is excessive unless there are unusual circumstances IMO

Mine live thousands of miles away & I send money in their local currency as them changing GBP to KC is a nightmare. I send about £40 each (I order it in their LC and pay what I need to in GBP -much more this year! Close to £48, but I can't (won't) send them less LC than usual.

I do spend more on my god children who I usually see at Christmas though.

I’d say £20 is enough so yes you are being generous. My DD (11) would be delighted but I agree with others that cash in a card is better than a direct transfer to bank account

My teens get £10 each from aunt and are more than happy with that

I’d say £20 in a card (not a bank transfer)

I also think £20 is fine, maybe a small chocolate something to open. It gives you the option of raising it to £30 in when he's 15/16 and you give yourself some leeway as you say money is tight. (If you give 40 and find next year you can't spend so much, you'll feel bad!)