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AIBU or is he playing games?

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Wazza89 · 10/12/2021 14:26

DH and I have had our problems lately (mainly financial). He has been making an effort lately but I’m clearly still cynical!

DS was poorly yesterday and spent the day on the sofa sleeping and watching telly (makes a change from his usual hyperactive self 😂). Anyway, I decided to get my laptop out and play Sims (😂😂) and binge watch a series on Prime. It was the first time in a long time I just felt chilled. Usually it’s DH upstairs gaming in the evening. Anyway, DH came down and had other ideas. We cuddled on the sofa and his hands wandered a few times! When I made it crystal clear I wasn’t interested, he went upstairs. He tried it on again at 6 am this morning and I had to keep pushing his hands away which I find so annoying! I don’t know why men do this??! Surely once is enough! Anyway, he sulked off saying, “I don’t even know why I try”. I asked him if he wanted to talk but he just walked out the door.

He texted me later when he was working, bit cold (no kisses, very matter of fact) and I asked for the second time if he was alright. He replied, “we’ll talk later”. To which I said don’t bother because I’ve done nothing wrong. I’m allowed “me time” too. He then replied later saying he only had 2% battery (hence the, “we’ll talk later”) and I’ve overreacted! He then rang me 20 times saying, “we’ll talk now”. I feel like he’s playing games! Or am I being paranoid?

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WhatATimeToBeAlive · 10/12/2021 14:41

Why didn't you talk to him when he range? Sounds like you're both playing games.

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 10/12/2021 14:42

*rang

goawaystormy · 10/12/2021 15:29

You are playing just as many games as he is. Refusing to talk because 'I've done nothing wrong' - true you haven't but maybe he wants to talk about his feelings. We'll talk later is abit blunt but perhaps he wants to do it in person (I definitely would), you refusing to talk after opening the dialogue by asking if he's alright is just as much of a game.

Of course you don't owe him sex but he's also allowed to feel rejected and this can make someone feel a little deflated. When you say you made it 'crystal clear' were you nice about it (i'm not really in the mood right now vs no, i dont want sex with you) or straight up rejecting him?

You both need to grow up and have an adult chat about your relationship and learn to treat each other nicely and with respect by the sounds of it

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