Want to leave my job

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Fedup9864 · 10/12/2021 05:46

I don’t know if it’s my job or if it’s just me. I’m hoping by writing it down and having some opinions I can be a little clearer in my head. I’m not happy at work. I feel kind of isolated and stressed all the time. I’m part-time but even on days off I’m thinking of work non-stop. Weekends are taken over by the work I bring home and planning for week ahead.

I have 3 young kids at home, youngest is 2.5 years old. The thing is my manager is very young and new, and doesn’t really put any pressure on me BUT I put myself under pressure. If I don’t do half the things I’m supposed to then things will fall apart and make it difficult for me. He wants me to focus on things that should be his job rather than what I think focus should be.

I’ve worked in similar environments and very experienced in my job. I at least had other colleagues to chat to during day but here I feel isolated. I hate going into work. I’m irritable and moody with my family but manage to hold it together whilst in work. I think I’m going to miss my job as I love the routine and the kids I work with.

I’m a bit worried about giving my notice in as headteacher really happy with me. I cannot keep putting in so much effort at work and neglect my family. I’m thinking of temping part time. Done it before and loved it.

What reason should I say in my resignation letter and how can I drop this guilt of even thinking of leaving?

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MintJulia · 10/12/2021 05:55

Rather than resigning, why don't you go and talk to the HT. Explain what is happening, how you feel, and that you think it is your supervisor's inexperience that is causing your anxiety.

At least that way, you won't need to make up a reason, you will have highlighted the issue for whoever takes over from you, and you can leave, knowing you have been honest and open.

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Fedup9864 · 10/12/2021 05:57

@MintJulia thank you.

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Anothermumm · 10/12/2021 06:03

Hi @Fedup9864
I was a teacher for a number of years and gave up just before I got pregnant with DD for similar reasons to what you're describing.

It sounds like you have made your mind up to put your family first in the situation you are in at the moment and you shouldn't feel bad for that, it is important you put them and yourself first
I think you will probably be surprised just how replaceable you are when you hand your notice in. You can just say you want to allocate more time to family and being there for your children if you want to give them a reason.
It's natural to feel guilty, you have given a lot of yourself and your time to your career but if it is making you unhappy then a change needs to be made. Like you say, you have tried other environments so you know whether it is just your current place or work or the job in general making you feel this way.
Best of luck

Bellafrenum · 10/12/2021 06:11

Regarding guilt, they would drop you in an instant if they didn't want you there any more. Do what is best for you.

GoodnightGrandma · 10/12/2021 06:13

Do you have to give a reason ? I never have.
You could always go with family commitments.

Splashinginpuddles15 · 10/12/2021 18:14

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MajorCarolDanvers · 10/12/2021 18:17

You don't have to give a reason when resigning.

You don't have to feel guilty. You have signed a contract in ink, not blood.

But I agree with the first pp's suggestion - talk to the HT. You haven't even given them a chance to try to support you.

But at the end of the day - if you are really not happy, and don't think that will change then resign. Its not as big of a deal as you think. People do it ever day.

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