To be fed up of everything at the moment?

[julieca]

DP works as self-employed and works in an industry that has struggled. He managed with government grants for the self-employed, but they have all stopped now. The new variant and its impact is going to kill his income.
I work for a company that has been limping along, but any lockdown will I think kill it off.
Events are being cancelled. My workplace has cancelled all Xmas parties today. I was supposed to be at a carol concert last night that was cancelled.
We still haven't got any decorations up in the house. No one else seems to care much, but I always put them up and I couldn't care less at the minute.
House is a bit of a mess, the weather is bloody miserable, and so am I.
And the country is going to the dogs. A government riddled with sleaze and corruption, Brexit not properly enacted but when it is it will bite, and rising fuel and food prices.
I don't think I have ever felt so pessimistic about the future.

Hi OP, we are just bumping this thread for you. (And YANBU)

Hi, OP, I feel exactly the same, plus my husband tested positive for COVID today the day after his works Christmas night out! So that’s me isolating for ten days as I live in Scotland. For what it’s worth, I put our tree up tonight and I do feel a little better. I hope you feel better x

I'm sorry you are feeling so low OP

I can completely sympathise with how you are feeling, my DH is also self employed and is now worried about his booked work for 2022 being cancelled again (he is in the arts sector), the uncertainty of it all right now doesn't fill you with much optimism.

Perhaps over the weekend avoid the news, put on a good playlist and blitz the house a little bit, and get the decorations started. I felt my mood lifted once the tree went up, maybe it could give you a little boost too?

It is all a bit shit right now, but it will get better eventually.

Yes it’s all feels fairly miserable 😭 we must be reaching the bottom of the miserable trough fairly soon though. Is there anything you enjoy doing that can cheer you up a bit and distract you from thinking about how miserable it is ? YANBU
Maybe don’t watch the news and watch something cheerful. Can you force yourself to tidy a bit and put some decorations up to cheer up your home? Maybe set a timer for 30 mins and see how far you can get with decorating / tidying quickly with a glass of your favourite Xmas drink ( I’ve opened the Xmas baileys already ) and listen to some music you enjoy ? Can you invite some friends or family round ? What activities did you used to enjoy doing? The cinemas and theatres etc are still open is there anything you’d like to see ? Yes it’s miserable but maybe a bit of escapism could help. Sorry about the company you work for - is there any other job you could do as a back up so at least you have a plan if it happens? We also cancelled Xmas parties at work so groups of staff dont meet and then end up all being off together ill . Hope it gets better soon for us all

@EstherMumsnet thanks. Last time I looked at it nobody had commented and I thought it had just disappeared.

Thanks for the nice messages. I am sorry some of you are also having a shit time. @CherryPieface hope your DP feels better soon @Burgerqueenbee I hope your DHs work isn't cancelled. Its the uncertainty that gets you.
I am sure we will manage, we will get other work if we have to, even if its not in what we want to do. Yes will try and do something nice this weekend. Thanks.

YANBU, at all OP. You are not alone in how you feel

Thanks. It is the uncertainty that gets me.

Yanbu at all, there’s not a lot to be optimistic about atm. I tell myself there’s been bad times before and they’ve passed.
For now do any small things that make you feel better, more comfortable, —— candles, scented bath, favourite food, film, music. We can’t change the big picture atm but we can do small things to cope, even if it’s just for an hour or two.

YANBU. We too are in Scotland and both DH and DS are positive so I'm isolating too now. The thought of the next week unable to take my 4 year old anywhere is awful and I'm gutted he's missing so many nice things this week. It was my birthday a couple of days ago too and that was shit.

Nope YANBU at all . I feel the same and for less reason than you as Covid hasn’t impacted on us too badly. I think it’s just the bleak midwinter plus the awful politics with no change in sight. I can’t get myself going for Christmas, decorations, presents, nothing! I’m hoping I’ll snap out if it soon but no sign yet.

I feel the same. I'm self-employed and scarily skint at the moment, we've all just had Covid, DH now has full-blown flu and is really unwell, DS, who's in his exam years is home more than he's at school lately because of a covid outbreak amongst the teachers at his school, my only local friend is moving away tomorrow and don't get me started on the fucking government. I've never felt less Christmassy in my life :(

Im sorry OP. Things are all a bit shit at the moment aren't they.

I like to think there is light at the end of the tunnel. Unfortunately it's a long one but we will get there.

And worse case, if we don't? We might as well eat, drink, and be merry....

Try little things. Sometimes it's really small distractions or bits of niceness that can help the most.

I'm sorry your carol concert got cancelled. I love carols. Not the same as going in person but I highly recommend watching this one. It's beautiful ❤️

www.thedonkeysanctuary.org.uk/events/10-12-2021/sanctuary-from-your-sofa-presents-carols-by-candlelight-2021

Different things help different people but I agree with a pp. We're doing our tree this weekend. Walking outside seeing other people's decorations - particularly the lights twinkling - felt nice.

I hope you manage to have a nice weekend.

Yanbu no, I'm sorry to hear about your work situations.

There is no point in adding fuel to the fire though, spirits can change. Start with the house maybe, have a good clear out whilst you can and sort things before Christmas. It just might change the energy and lift your days a little.

I have faith everything will work out for you and your family and for us all you know.

I’ve been feeling like this a lot too (opening up and speaking to others I now know we’re far from alone). It seems like one disaster to another (I was starting to think someone had put a curse on me! ). Looking at it logically, we’re in a situation of the kind we’ve only read about in history books, the kind where we’ve thought “thank fuck we didn’t have to go through that”, then suddenly our whole lives have changed. We wear masks, social distance, have new vaccines, freedoms taken away. It’s massive and I think we’ve grossly underestimated how much these things affect our collective mh never mind the actuality of the practicalities such as losing relatives to a new disease, lost income, difficult access to basic health care. And then the “joys” of Brexit, rising cost, losing valuable employees as they leave en mass to their respective home countries.

What I’m trying to say is, is yes life is shit right now for literally millions of people. We have to find our resolve to get through this and instead of curling up into a ball and giving up (I have been in a tight curled up ball so I include myself in this) we need to try to think differently, focus on the positives rather than the (many) negatives. Little things can make a big difference but it takes time, you will get through this op and we’ll be the ones they’ll be reading about us thinking “thank fuck we didn’t live through that....” unmumsnetty hugs to you

Yes I do. I have had 3 jabs but because I'm immunosuppressed they have little effect. I'm very vulnerable to covid. I have one child with SEN who's been given 2 jabs and one who's too young for any vaccination. Life has been on pause for them for nearly 2 years and although we're OK financially they are living a half life. I read MN and get told to shield (impossible) or just a shrug that I may die.

@Phoenix76 Yes that is a good point that we maybe underestimate the impact of living through this.

@PastMyBestBeforeDate I am so sorry to hear that And some people have been almost psychopathic in their approach towards vulnerable people. I do hope we get out of this soon and you can get back to normal life.

Thanks @julieca. I hope the next few months aren't too catastrophic for you on the income front. I was feeling very gloomy last night! I'm with you on the decorations and general despair at the shitshow in government.