To not exchange gifts with husband?

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Myself an husband agreed we wouldn't exchange gifts for each other this year as we left starting shopping for the children very late... he was spoilt on his birthday in November I'm not fussed on gifts for me anyway and will just buy when I see/ want something usually... anyway long story short husband wants to now buy gifts I have budgeted my money and said can't really afford too I still have things to get for the children and also Xmas food shop then just living in general! He said the children will be upset when we don't open anything but I honestly don't think they will even notice!! Aibu to say we stick to our plan it's pointless buying cheap tat but I can feel an argument brewing over it on his side 🤦🏻‍♀️

Say "ok but no more than a fiver". Get him a paperback novel from The Works (£2) and a choc Santa. You will even have change from the fiver if you do that.

Tell him to get you a present as you spoiled him on his birthday.

He doesn’t need presents, get him chocolates.

Get him a selection box.

Kids will 100% not notice, if they do then Santa doesn't bring gifts for adults and if they don't believe in Santa then be honest and say you're buying a kitchen appliance or whatever.

Pointless spending money on crap just to open a present!

It’s a bit sad to not buy your husband a Christmas present

Your dh sounds like hard work.. It depends how you split your finances, but our money buys everything so a token deo gift set or pair of socks wrapped up can suffice, anything we want or need we buy..

Tell him to buy the turkey etc and you'll get him a gift from the money you save as a result (it sounds like you have separate finances).

I agree with your DH and I think DC do notice, you could just buy each other a small thing.
I don’t get the Christmas is only for kids way of thinking.

DH and I haven’t exchanged gifts in years. I’m not a fan of stuff. We do however book something nice to do as a treat. Like this year we’re going to frozen the musical after Christmas.

Thistooshallpsss we used to do the same.

I have budgeted my money and said can't really afford too are your fiances separate, does he have more spending money than you?

He could buy some of the other things on your list and then you’ll have money to buy him something.

@Shoxfordian

It’s a bit sad to not buy your husband a Christmas present

He was spoilt last month with the new Apple Watch it's not as if I don't buy him anything lol! Thanks for all suggestions we are going to do a £15 limit on token gift off the children x

Tell him you aren’t getting him anything, it’s up to him if he wants to get you something.

We don't buy each other.
More because of the mental load around Christmas.
I'd have to "suggest" things to get and I can't be arsed with another job.

My partner and I never exchange Christmas presents - we usually pay to go away (no children at home) for the week over Christmas and that's kind of our present to each other.

We are in our late 40s, earn well enough that we can buy what we want when we want, so there's nothing either of us want at Christmas really. It's very rare we buy birthday presents for each other, and we don't do Valentine's Day, so maybe we're just odd.

I'd just buy your husband a little something from the kids and tell him to suck it up. If he wants something in particular, he can spend the money he was planning on spending on your present and buy it himself.