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AIBU wasting money on teacher gift

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mumof2exhausted · 09/12/2021 17:42

We have all contributed money to buy teachers vouchers for Christmas , rather than them getting lots individual present (ie best teacher mum, body shop crap). Person who volunteered to go grab the vouchers has spent a third of the money on bloody body shop stuff. So rather than having a lovely £100 voucher each the teachers now have £60 and body shop stuff. I know people will say “well she volunteered” . A few of us volunteered. Literally to go to the shopping centre to get generic voucher which can be used in any shop. Am I (and others) being unreasonable to be annoyed?

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AbsolutelyFuckinFabulousDarlin · 09/12/2021 18:27

@StrangerThanSpring oh no, I'd probably (actually, I know I would) be that arsey person then and ask for my money back as that's not what I agreed to donated it for

Newmumatlast · 09/12/2021 18:32

If it was absolutely clear people were contributing to buy a voucher only I would actually be firm on this in the group and say my contribution was for voucher only, that isn't what has been purchased and therefore person who bought should return it and buy voucher. Or if others knew, their contributions can go towards but others who didn't know should be refunded the % of their contribution. It's all well and good saying dont give money to this person again but thats how people like this get away with it as they just move on to the next people. It should be called out. She breached the agreement.

MadeForThis · 09/12/2021 18:33

I agree that she's a MLM. CF too.

ImInStealthMode · 09/12/2021 18:36

Absolutely call the CF out. You donated for a voucher, and a voucher is what you want to gift. I'm sure others feel the same.

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 09/12/2021 18:39

@CheesyFootballsAreEvil

Can you say "sorry I'm confused is the bodyshop stuff extra stuff you've bought with your own money as I thought we'd agreed no toiletries etc"
Yep, this.
girlmom21 · 09/12/2021 18:39

The teacher should be getting £100 worth of vouchers. The mother needs to return the body shop shite stuff

AtLeastPretendToCare · 09/12/2021 18:41

If she is in MLM this is dreadful.

If she just bought from a shop but meant well I would let it go.

godmum56 · 09/12/2021 18:43

@CheesyFootballsAreEvil

Can you say "sorry I'm confused is the bodyshop stuff extra stuff you've bought with your own money as I thought we'd agreed no toiletries etc"
this
Lipsandlashes · 09/12/2021 18:47

Ask her to return it. If she refuses or makes excuses tell her to give you the receipt and you’ll return it. I’m sure her face will be a picture.

Ironmanrocks · 09/12/2021 18:55

Ask for the receipts.... you will soon see what she spent...

Ozanj · 09/12/2021 18:57

@mumof2exhausted

Oh my god I didn’t even think that she might be a body shop rep! My boy is only in reception and I don’t really know this mum that well. It’s just so annoying as the WhatsApp thread literally went along the lines of “yes I’m happy to contribute to a voucher from the class so they don’t get 30 smellies gift sets ha ha”.
Point it out and ask her if she’s a rep and demand a refund. She was a cheeky bitch doing this and needs to reimburse you all.
OnceuponaRainbow18 · 09/12/2021 18:59

@Ozanj

The problemo is OPs kid is in reception so guess OP doesn’t want to fall out with someone… but asking for a receipt may work?

trumpisagit · 09/12/2021 19:06

Does it really matter in the scheme of things? End of year make it clearer you only want to contribute towards a voucher.

girlmom21 · 09/12/2021 19:08

@trumpisagit

Does it really matter in the scheme of things? End of year make it clearer you only want to contribute towards a voucher.
If she only offered to do the collection so she could line her own pockets then yeah it matters. They donated for a voucher.
Pugsnotdrugs101 · 09/12/2021 19:15

I would be fuming OP. If I’d contributed towards a voucher and something else not agreed was asked I’d either be asking for my money back or for the bodyshite to be returned and a voucher bought as originally agreed! Like previous posters have said, if she refuses, ask for the recipt. I’m sure once you speak up, others will too! Good luck Smile

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 09/12/2021 19:15

Ask her to return it. If she refuses or makes excuses tell her to give you the receipt and you’ll return it. I’m sure her face will be a picture

^^
Yes, do this. What is going on on here recently with people using money collected for vouchers to buy shite?

LovelyLovelyWarmCoffee · 09/12/2021 19:15

Ask her to return it and get vouchers as agreed. I really would do that. She is counting on everybody not saying anything.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 09/12/2021 19:15

Or buying the wrong vouchers as on another thread

Stiffcondomhat · 09/12/2021 19:16

Basically fraud innit. CF!

SmellyOldOwls · 09/12/2021 19:20

Have a look at her Facebook page OP you'll know if she's flogging Bodyshop

Drywhitefruitycidergin · 09/12/2021 19:20

I would be so pissed off....who does that and thinks it's ok???

YouDoRunRunRun · 09/12/2021 19:22

I'd just be blatant and ask her if she sells Body Shop stuff

curlii103 · 09/12/2021 19:33

Youve got a good few years of school and Id just be pleased someone else organised it!! I also quite like body shop and maybe its just one of those something to open things. Id leave it.

Snugglepumpkin · 09/12/2021 19:40

I'd ask her when she is repaying you 40% of what you put towards buying a voucher back as you never agreed to that & are not willing to pay for it.

Invasionofthegutsnatchers · 09/12/2021 19:40

I need an update OP. Is she a body shop rep?