to want to punch dh so hard that he sees stars??

[thegirlthatsantaclauseforgot]

and of course i wouldn't do it but by god i would like to sometimes.

had the usual scurry round this morning and when he is in a rush/flustered he thinks he has perfect licence to talk to me in such a rude manner..Honestly-he wouldn't speak to anyone else like that
and not only that but pushing me out of the way instead of saying excuse me

then 2 seconds later speaking normally and not understanding why i am so annoyed and upset.

stupid fucker. god i love him but i really felt like thumping him this morning.

Sounds like my DP. I think it makes him feel better if he is rude to me in the morning... gets rid of his aggression.

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he knows he is out of order-i got a bit teary and even my little boy said to me 'are you upset because of daddy?' and then i had to bluster and say i was fine and everything was fine and he should g and have fun at school etc.

I think you need to pull him up on this. Pushing you out of the way is NOT acceptable. It's using his strength against you - the start of a slippery slop that ultimately could lead to domestic violence. No decent man should behave like this. Maybe it would shock him into waking up if you explained this?

Verbal abuse is not on, either.

oh it's not verbal abuse-i's just not speaking politely.

but he is def going to get a good talking to about pushing me this morning how dare he?

It's totally ignorant - no other words for it. Tell him he's old enough to learn some manners. Arrogant bastard.

I've experienced this. Like everyone has said, it's best to bring it up with him later.

Speaking to him is a must. Would he talk to strangers that way? Or his boss?

At the very least, you will retain a level of assertiveness, and keep your self esteem up.

Oh and please try to enjoy our day... you can almost guarantee he's not even thinking about what happened

i do this to my dp, and i feel like an absolute git after, but at the time i can't help it
smack him on the ass in a "i'm making it look like a joke, but we both know i'm trying to tell you i'm annoyed" kinda way and tell him to mind his manners
and hark is right - he won't even remember it - i only think about it for a few mins afterwards 'cos i'm a chick.
then i do it again blush]

i have spoken to him. told him i was really angry and i pissed off and asked him what kind of message it was giving our son and he has apologised profusely and is forgiven.

oh good
you might have to do it a few more times, but it sounds like the message is getting through.

my dh does that too.(makes me feel pants)
i think suggesting physical violence even in jokey way is bit off though,a man saying it on here would be told off!

oh i know dh was trying to squeeze past me last night when i was wrapping presents and knocked my wine over obv my fault for placing it where he would be going and then when i got glass in my hand shouted at me like i did it on purpose (arsehole)

i think it's quite obvious i wasn't suggesting physical violence, that's why it had the unwieldy disclaimer after the suggestion.
i think that the op can make her own mind up as to whether to put it into practice or not
she hasn't, she's talked to him instead, and all's well
well, i can't hear any sirens here, anyway

i didnt mean you.
i meant title.and was just saying that if one of the dads wrote a title like that-people would get cross.

fair point...