To tell him I love him even though I don't?

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I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months. His feelings have progressed faster than mine, he told me he loved me a few months ago but I hadn't said it back until the other day.

I thought I loved him, but now when I say it it doesn't feel right. I really like him but I'm not there yet. He's so excited and keeps making remarks about us being in love. He now keeps saying he loves me, and I say it back.

AIBU to just keep saying it until I actually do love him? I know I am BU, but don't have the heart to take back what I said.

Nooooo

Don't keep saying it if you don't feel it. Be honest with him. You said it too soon.

I feel like if I say I said it too soon, it will be the end my us. He is so happy.

Oh great!
Just be honest. Do not waste people's time and feelings OP. Do not lead him on. He deserves a happy life. 8 months and you do not love him. So walk away!

Are YOU ‘so happy’?

Tbh if you aren’t in love by 8 months I’d say it’s not happening.

I really like him. But when I said I love him, it doesn't feel right. Then again, I do see a future with him. So do I love him? I feel like I'm detached from my feelings.

Maybe it's all too much pressure? All that "We're in love" etc on his part - it sounds a bit exhausting!

I perhaps wouldn't have a big chat but focus on having fun, nice times and giving space for your feelings to become clear. If he says "I love you" perhaps some non-committal "mmm-hmms"?! Hopefully he isn't saying it that often, and if he is then no wonder you're overwhelmed!

You don't feel right when you tell him you love him. You don't love him.

He's happy based on lies.

If you don't love him after 8 months then I think it's time to end it. Why would you see a future with someone you don't love? How was it different when you were in love with people before? What is stopping you from falling in love with him?

I have never been in love before.

Is this the frist time you have told someone you love them?
Have you had other long term relationships?

The only other relationship I have had was with DS' dad. We were together less than a year and I definitely did not love him.

I wouldnt be too worried about it, what you are declaring to each other is limerence. Real love takes somewhat longer than a few months as you have to get to know a person well first. But people dont say Im in limerence with you. Anyway limerence doesn't last and when actual love happens its long gone. Stick with it if you are happy and so is he and see where it leads. And stop saying it in return if it makes you uncomfortable, you should be able to be yourself unapologetically in relationships. If he actually does love you, he will be patient and give you time for your feelings to develop.