Unvaccinated family

[mummaof02]

I have a 2 week old and a 1.5 year old. My partner and I are very cautious of Covid and are trying to keep our distance from as many people as possible while baby is still so young.

Most of our family is vaccinated so we've agreed that as long as they do a lateral flow test and it's negative before coming round then they can come and meet baby. However my partners sisters are both refusing the vaccine because they don't want to be 'guinea pigs'.

Are we being unreasonable for saying we don't want them coming round when we live in a small flat and feel it's too dangerous? They're very rude and disrespectful towards us on a normal day and feel this is going to cause major issues but we aren't willing to risk our children's health

You can do what you like.

I wouldn't and didn't when our youngest was born 4 months ago. Most people didn't want to come visit, they did drop presents off at my parents house though. My FIL still hasn't met her because he's a complete arse!

Do what you want, but your unvaxxed relatives are no more dangerous. All could be asked to do an LFT. Everyone I know that's unvaxxed haven't had covid.....folks I know that are vaxxed have all had Covid multiple times.

Your family your rules.

But if they're generally rude and disrespectful, why would you want them around anyway?

Your baby, your child, your rules.
Personally, I think you’re being being very sensible.

I don't know why you'd have rude and disrespectful people around your children regardless of their vaccination status.

Vaccination doesn't really prevent you passing on the virus, it just reduces the likelihood of severe symptoms if you catch it. I think it's about a 2% reduction in cases of close contacts from the last study I read.

So yes, I think they are batshit about "guinea pigs" but actually, if it's transmission you're worried about then this isn't the hill to die on.

As others have said vaccinated people can pass Covid on, I both caught and passed on Covid when double jabbed. Best thing is to say for them to do a lateral flow before visiting. With the new variant I’ll be doing them regulars again

@Valhalla17

Do what you want, but your unvaxxed relatives are no more dangerous. All could be asked to do an LFT. Everyone I know that's unvaxxed haven't had covid.....folks I know that are vaxxed have all had Covid multiple times.

Of course vaccinated people can catch and spread Covid. But to say unvaccinated people are no more dangerous is simply untrue.

You want people to get vaxxed just so they can see your children? Sure, don’t let them come but know that triple jabbed people get covid.

They should do a test before coming to see you but asking anything beyond that is ridiculous

YANBU. I wouldn’t want them anyway if they are rude but why would you take unnecessary risks?

If they’re rude and disrespectful why are you inviting them round at all?

I couldn’t care less if they were vaccinated or not, if they are rude and disrespectful then they wouldn’t be invited into my home full stop.

If they're not responsible enough to have a vaccine, do you trust them if they say they had a negative LF test?

I think reasonable to take a cautious approach

I would do exactly the same. Vaccination obviously isn't 100% protection, but it does show that the person is taking trying to keep everyone as safe as possible, seriously.

I wouldn't invite an unvaccinated family member or friend to visit.

If they are rude and obnoxious towards you then both you and your dh need to find your backbone and stop seeing them. I think your approach is actually quite sensible in terms of asking them to fo a lateral flow test. It would however be unreasonable to ask someone unvaccinated to get the vaccine so they can see your child.

I had a baby 3 months ago and whilst I appreciated those that did lfts before they came I didn't ask about vaccination status and don't care to. I however have older kids aged 4 and 5 that go to nursery and primary school anyway so there is a risk there hence why I am probably less cautious then you. I can't mitigate the risk of the kids bringing it home from school.