People offloading stuff on to you!!

[hoomama]

I'm so annoyed.

I have a friend who is lovely but she offered me a couple of bags of kids clothing the other day. I said yes. Said she needed to sift through them and throw out all of the old stuff & give me the good bits. She turned up with 5 massive bags & a bag full of shoes. Said go through them, chuck anything that's not in good condition and take what I don't want to a charity shop. I haven't got time to sift through 5 bags of clothing. I also haven't got time to run around to charity shops!!

Now, I don't want to seem ungrateful but I went through them and the shoes are literally falling apart. Laces have been tied together several times as they've obviously snapped along the way. Loads of old disgusting bits of clothing with holes & stains. The stuff that is good quality is just terrible in terms of fashion (don't mean to be a dick but it really is awful). So I've got these shit bags hanging around.

Then MIL just gets in touch and her friend has given her 2 big bags of toys for us to have. We haven't got any bloody room for toys. Can hardly say no as she's turning up with them in a bit. I am going to tell her to say no next time as we have too many etc.

Does anyone else feel like people just want to offload all of their childrens old shite on to you because they can't be arsed to deal with it themselves Urg!!

We had people turn up with 3 full boxes of VHS tapes of cartoons. In 2016. Not sure who has VHS tapes anymore, but we also got the 'look through it and if you don't want just chuck'. Which was just code for ' we can;'t be arsed to chuck this ourselves so you can do it'.

Anyway- I tried to give a bag of stuff to our local charity shop just today and they said that they were not taking any donations until after Christmas. The mearest supermarket that has the big bins is a half hour drive away.

I think YABU, massively so actually. People don't offload their shite only if you have kids and they're getting rid of kids stuff, they do it with any old shit they dont want to cart off to the tip! In 2019 my gran in law kindly donated a bag for life chock full of (and I quote) "lovely kitchen stuff for you, some of it is brand new!" and by "brand new" she meant herbs and spices that had never been opened from ... 1997, I shit you not, I put pictures on here before. My MIL put all of the presents we had given her in a black bag and gave them back she wasn't even being malicious, she thought she was being nice because she never got the use out of them. Like ffs my house is not a skip.

YANBU OP, I think it comes from a good place but it’s annoying. Clothes are easy I find, we get those charity bags through the door weekly so can stick anything unwanted out in that. Unwanted toys are such a hassle though, I would refuse to take them or tell MIL to keep them at her house for kids to play with there.

@WinterSeaFog do you have a local community page on Facebook? Someone might be grateful for whatever you wanted to take to the charity shop

We do and that is a brilliant idea thanks. :) The stuff is pretty good quality, including some unworn stuff that my Ds with sensory issues just refused to wear.