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To have Christmas day on boxing day

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LonelyBlueberry · 08/12/2021 14:00

To save the hassle of running up and down trying to see all the family before DD goes to her dads?
Last year was awful and so rushed. Awake at 7, presents opened and breakfast, endless parade of family coming and going so DD couldn't play with her toys then we had to go visit family that couldn't travel before dropping her at her dads where it was a similar kind of situation. Her dad has already suggested a similar thing again, I have her in the morning, he picks her up just after lunch. I will have DD back Christmas day night due to her dads work pattern anyway, so it's not like I won't see her at all but aibu tp say he can have her Christmas eve night and drop her back off tea tike Christmas day and ill just have another Christmas day on boxing day or is that a bonkers idea?

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Sally872 · 08/12/2021 14:01

No child will complain about 2 Christmas days I would absolutely do that if it wolds better for you.

LivingTheLifeofMum · 08/12/2021 14:14

Not bonkers at all, that's what we do when DC are at their dad's for Christmas Day.

Duckerbizzle · 08/12/2021 14:17

Sounds like an excellent idea, go for it!

AliveAndSleeping · 08/12/2021 14:19

We usually have a small celebration on Christmas Eve and then celebrate with extended family and friends on Christmas day. Or sometimes on boxing Day. Whatever works best. I don't think that kids would mind (or anyone else).

A relaxed Christmas is definitely better than a stressful one!! Flowers

SleepingStandingUp · 08/12/2021 14:20

I think it's actually the best option for your child OP

SleepingStandingUp · 08/12/2021 14:20

But alternate next year

Wingedharpy · 08/12/2021 14:20

You can have Christmas day whenever you like OP.
There's 365 days to choose from.
Pick which ever one works for you.
Have a lovely day - whenever it is.Xmas Wink

LadyCatStark · 08/12/2021 14:20

That sounds lovely 😊.

HangingDitch · 08/12/2021 14:23

Not bonkers, sounds fine to me.

My Gran’s old people club used to have their Christmas dinner in July, because then they could walk home when it was still daylight in the evening.

mogsrus · 08/12/2021 14:35

Christmas is over 12 days NOT 12 minutes so why people rush around like headless chickens has always baffled me,you are supposed to be relaxing not beating yourself up,it's absolutely crazy have Christmas when you want it we do

PositiveLife · 08/12/2021 14:42

That's what we do. I prefer it.

DC go to their dad's on Xmas eve and have most of Xmas day at his. Then they come to mine and we do Xmas eve hamper, and do Xmas day on boxing day. It's really nice actually and the kids love it.

AffIt · 08/12/2021 14:50

My father was at sea, often for six months + at a time, and was rarely home for Christmas.

We used to have Christmas Day in April, if required, and multiple birthdays, depending on when his leave fell. It was great.

I had a lot of friends with parents in the police/NHS etc who did the same - as a PP said, you'll never find a child who'll turn down the opportunity to celebrate again. Grin

MadeOfStarStuff · 08/12/2021 14:53

YANBU, lots of people do this if they have to share custody or if a parent has to work Xmas day

Personally I would still have her Christmas morning and push the visiting family to Boxing Day so you can actually enjoy Xmas morning with her, but you should do whatever works for you

HollyandIvyandAllThingsYule · 08/12/2021 14:59

It’s not bonkers at all. I used to do the same with my girls on the years they were at their dad’s - ‘Christmas Day’ early or late depending on what else was going on. It helps that I grew up celebrating Christmases on the 24th so the 25th is ‘wrong’ anyway. It always worked very well - I don’t believe in stress at Christmas!🎄🎄🎄

Practicebeingpatient · 08/12/2021 15:01

My DH and I are still together but we've always done this. Christmas day is Christmas stockings, church, maybe visit family, lovely dinner. That was more than enough when they were younger so we started having another Christmas Day on Boxing Day. Then it's just us at home, more lovely food and opening presents. They are adults now and when I suggested opening presents on the 25th they were keen at all. They like that our Christmas is still going on when everyone else's is over.

Highlanders372 · 08/12/2021 15:05

I think you sound like a lovely selfless mum and you DD is a very lucky little girl. Enjoy your boxing day and hopefully a more relaxed Christmas day.

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LonelyBlueberry · 08/12/2021 17:37

Christmas on boxing day it is then!
I just don't fancy the stress of trying to fit so much into half a day, it was chaotic enough when there was a whole day!
DD is getting a bike so it will be nice to have time to go to the park to ride it on "Christmas day" too Grin

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