to go on a work trip when DC is ill

[MelonTits]

So 2 year old DS has conjunctivitis. Well in himself, but hates having his eyes cleaned multiple times a day.

I’m due to travel tomorrow evening for a long work meeting on Wednesday (engineering - has to be on site, remote joining is not an option, I’m not vital to the proceedings but it will create more work for me and others if I’m not there).

DH is more than capable of looking after DS but I’ve got an insane dose of mum guilt, because I was very much looking forward to a peaceful night’s sleep in a Premier Inn, and waking up to my alarm at a reasonable time rather than a gentle smack in the face from a toddler.

AIBU to go?

Of course you should go, it's conjunctivitis!

Absolutely need to go

You are at the start of the journey of being a working mum

Conjunctivitis is NOT enough to let down work

Save it for when genuinely needed

@BlameItOnTheBlackStar

Of course you should go, it's conjunctivitis!

He’s my PFB, I have no gauge of what’s serious!

He's not Ill! Save parental leave for when he is ill.

YANBU

He'll be fine.

I thought it was something more serious. Go!

It’s only conjunctivitis, our nursery doesn’t even exclude as long as it’s being treated. And he’s being looked after my his other parent! Of course you should still go on your work trip.

That's equivalent to missing a work thing because your kid has headlice.

Non issue at all, its a bit of gunk in his eyes.

YANBU. DS will be fine, conjunctivitis isn't fun but it's not serious, and toddlers get ill loads because they're tiny germ vectors - save your cancelling work things for when he's got a stomach bug or something where you really, really don't want to leave him :)

Righto, mind is made up. Agreed @housemaus, this is about the seventh consecutive thing he’s had in recent weeks and definitely the most mild, it’s just the only one that has happened at the same time as a long-distance site visit.

Conjunctivitis is not a kid being ill. Go and be guilt free.!!

It's conjunctivitis? That's nothing! They don't even have to stay off school!

Honestly you'll never be at work in the next 8 years or so if you miss this for a perfectly well child who has a perfectly functional other parent. Go, enjoy the breakfast and having the whole bed to yourself.

It's just conjunctivitis!

Go

Don't just go, run!

If you did
You would have to lie about your reason
Because any parent (or indeed any one!) would be and actually likely pissed odd

Of course you should go.

Would your DH be considering not going on a work trip because DC had conjunctivitis and you were at home to look after them? Of course he wouldn't.

Missing the point but all mine were born with a blocked tear duct and gooey eyes frequently made worse by a cold or getting ill in some other way.
After many trips to get anti biotic drops and ointment my amazing pharmacist recommended some homeopathic drops which worked so well and could stay in fridge for few weeks if it flared up again.
I'm not a big believer in homeopathy but they really helped me out.
I would ask your pharmacist if they can suggest something natural. I live abroad and can't remember the local brand. But it cleared it up in a day or two.
Enjoy your good nights sleep

@MelonTits The Kleenex Allergy wipes work wonders for our daughter (10 months) when she has it

My first has conjunctivitis and blapharitis. He looks like absolute hell, poor kid. It’s not really sickness though, just a side effect of a former cold. Go. He’ll be fine.

You have to go! It’s work, not a jolly. He’ll be fine with his dad, and as you said, he’s well in himself.

I can’t imagine any man ever worrying about this!

Go😂 he’s not actually ill.