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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Vote: shall I go to this interview

13 replies

YokoOnosHat · 06/12/2021 11:53

Looking for someone else to make this decision for me.

Got Lupus and Fibromyalgia, chronically I’ll anyway and have been ill for around 6 weeks now since I had Covid. Better than I was but generally feel like shit.

Applied for something on the off chance that I would get an interview. Got one but very ambivalent about it. Good money but I suspect for a good reason. Not even sure I want to work in this place. All things being equal I would go to the interview just to see.

Interview is meant to be today at 3. Currently amidst a power cut since 8am. Bogged down in deadlines for my other work (freelancer, basically doing fine) and bad nausea (on and off since Covid) which has meant I’ve puked twice this morning.

Pros for this job would be we need to renegotiate our mortgage in May, so it would be good to have something proper for the bank. Cons would be it wouldn’t be as flexible around my Illnesses and I don’t want to go to the interview.

Vote:

YANBU, sack the interview off. You don’t want the job anyway
YABU, go to the interview, what have you got to lose

OP posts:

ShinyMe · 06/12/2021 11:58

If you're not going to go, please tell them asap so they know. I've been an interviewer where people just don't show up and it's really frustrating.

WhatWouldKalindaDo · 06/12/2021 12:02

Given that you really don't seem to want this job, you'll probably send out an uninterested vibe at the interview, meaning you're unlikely to get the job anyway.

It sounds like a waste of time for both you and the person doing the interview.

For balance, I have an interview on Wednesday and I'm busy practicing questions and researching the company, which is what you do when you want a job. It's not usually just a case of showing up, you have to put effort in too.

WhatWouldKalindaDo · 06/12/2021 12:03

And yes, like a PP said, make sure you let them know if you're not going.

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YokoOnosHat · 06/12/2021 12:05

Thanks, yes I wouldn’t obviously let them know. And @WhatWouldKalindaDo of course, I know what it should look like and I am a functional human being who usually is enthusiastic about and prepared in professional situations…. As much as anything I’m bloody knackered and just can hardly drag my arse off the sofa.

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WhatWouldKalindaDo · 06/12/2021 12:08

YokoOnosHat

Sounds like this probably just isn't the job for you then.

The right role would get you excited and motivated.

Divebar2021 · 06/12/2021 12:09

I guess it depends on how much difference it would make to the mortgage re-negotiations if you are employed versus freelance. Are there lots of good mortgage deals out there ? My understanding was that there weren’t masses but I haven’t looked myself recently.

noctu · 06/12/2021 12:10

I would go, just to see what they're offering etc. Keeping your options open.

However that's only if you can manage it illness wise - my husband lives with a significant chronic condition and he's had to decline work/interviews before due to it so I understand.

If you can manage it I'd try to go, it'll be over and done with before you know it

Aurorie11 · 06/12/2021 12:15

I wouldn't go if you've been sick, reschedule if you want the job but don't go with 48 hours of bring sick in case its a new bug

New1name · 06/12/2021 12:18

Each time I apply for a job I ask myself if I am 100% certain I am taking it if I am successful. No point going and then possibly getting it when you are not sure you want it

ISeeTheLight · 06/12/2021 12:23

The mortgage situation would concern me. Can you get the mortgage based on one income? If so, don't go. If you can't and you need your income to be taken into account- I'd be looking for an employed job ASAP. That might not be this job; it's very much a candidate market at the moment.

EarringsandLipstick · 06/12/2021 12:27

That's so disrespectful to the people interviewing you - to cancel on the day of the interview, when most of your reasons were ones you were aware of before today.

It's so annoying to have a last minute drop out like that, there's a gap in the interview schedule usually can't be changed at short notice. (Although if it's 330 it may be the last interview of the day)

I would say if you really aren't interested, don't go.

Theunamedcat · 06/12/2021 12:30

When you feel better will you regret not going?

ShirleyPhallus · 06/12/2021 12:35

@New1name

Each time I apply for a job I ask myself if I am 100% certain I am taking it if I am successful. No point going and then possibly getting it when you are not sure you want it

I really disagree with this principle. An interview should be a two way street of you deciding whether you’d want to work there too.

So much you can’t tell before an interview - the demands of the role, the actual hours, the culture, career prospects, challenges or barriers, what your team is like etc etc etc

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