Visiting baby and vaccine

[NovRainbow5]

AIBU I’m not letting friends who aren’t vaccinated visit my 4 week old baby?
Friend is conspiracy obsessed over covid, hasn’t been vaccinated, doesn’t do LFT, and hasn’t abided to any rules in lockdown etc as she believes it’s the governments way of controlling us.

Not to drip feed- this is our first (and last) after multiple miscarriages and she has a kidney condition and is on antibiotics for the foreseeable future. She’s been in and out of hospital since she was born due to this.

I have a friend who isn't vaccinated whose coming to see the baby at Xmas so the baby will be around 4 weeks. I've asked her to do a PCR and a LFT. Ive asked everyone whose coming to do a LFT, but most people haven't needed asking and do them anyway

Personally, I wouldn't let her come round, because I'm over cautious and worried about it all. I'd never forgive her or myself if the worst happened. LFTs aren't reliable and it sounds like she might just lie anyway if she thinks it's all nonsense.

Having said all that, if your baby is in and out of hospital, and you're having visitors (whether vaccinated or not), then you're probably exposed anyway, so it's not like you're in a protective cocoon.

I guess it all depends on whether you'd rather have the worry over it all, or perhaps alienate a friend?

I caught covid from a vaccinated person.

Nevertheless I would let your baby get a bit older before seeing this person as your baby has a health condition.

It is time for you to decide between your baby and friends. I know who I have chosen.

@LabiaMinoraPissusFlapus

If you are exclusively breastfeeding then you will be protecting your baby from all germs. I always think that is cause to relax more around potential infection. I do think it is unreasonable to question vaccination status. Maybe request as LFT? This makes more sense as everyone can pass on Covid. I can't help but think that those trying to grant privileges to people who have had the vaccine, are really just trying to punish people who haven't had the vaccine (and you are probably angry about it).

But she’s not questioning, she already knows her friend hasn’t had the jab.

OP isn’t ‘punishing’ her friend, she’s making decisions about what risks she is willing to take around her own baby.

Her friend has the right to refuse the vaccine, just as everyone else has the right to not see her because of it. And not seeing a friends baby is hardly an infringement on her human rights .

OP, do whatever makes you feel most comfortable. Congratulations on your new arrival .