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Wedding behaviour

15 replies

Brendabigbaps · 04/12/2021 22:19

So I’m at a wedding, it’s a close family member and we are away from home staying in a hotel.
By 6pm my DH announces he’s going to bed as he’s had too much to drink!
He has left me and our 8yr old to enjoy the evening!!
I’mf* pissed iff

OP posts:
SexyNeckbeard · 04/12/2021 22:20

What's the problem? If he's not feeling well for whatever reason including drinking too much it seems sensible to have a lie down

ErickBroch · 04/12/2021 22:21

Annoying but I've been there, if he doesn't have form for it then I would let it go. If it's a regular thing (getting super drunk early) then it's different. Better he took himself to bed than make a show of himself at a wedding. I think 8yo is a pretty easy age too at 6pm...

mineofuselessinformation · 04/12/2021 22:22

So what have you done since then, OP?
I hope you and DC have had a nice time/

CrapJumpersAndTea · 04/12/2021 22:25

Is it his family? I would be cross unless he's not normally like this and daytime fizz etc has gone to his head.

steff13 · 04/12/2021 22:26

You're at the reception? So you can listen to music and eat fancy food and catch up with family members. Or go back to the hotel and get in your pajamas and watch TV. Either way I wouldn't really be angry.

HelloBunny · 04/12/2021 22:26

Chat to some family members?

RestingPandaFace · 04/12/2021 22:27

I’d rather he went to bed than stayed up drinking and ended up shitfaced!

Hellodarknessmyoldpal · 04/12/2021 22:30

Even though it is early it's quite sensible. unless this is a regular thing/he doesn't like the bride and groom I would probably be ok with it.

askingforafriend80 · 04/12/2021 22:36

What’s the issue? Put 8 year old to bed when she’s ready and enjoy the evebing

colourfulpuddles · 04/12/2021 22:39

Sounds sensible to me.

Kite22 · 04/12/2021 22:40

I agree with everyone else.

I mean, there is the caveat that it is a different issue if your dh drinks too much in life, and ruins occasions with his lack of control, that is a different thread, but for the question of him taking himself off to be because he feels unwell, whilst you are at a wedding where you are with your dc and obviously all the other family, then I don't see an issue with that.

Elieza · 04/12/2021 22:46

I’d not be best pleased however in these covid times people have changed drinking behaviour and many can’t handle it now!

Try and enjoy your evening. He’s an idiot for not pacing himself but if it’s a one off I’d not be too mad. I’d expect him not to do this again at any future events though. Now he knows his tolerance for alcohol is reduced he should remember this. Perhaps he was just so glad to be out after 18 months of covid that he overdid it.

AdventStar · 04/12/2021 22:46

@RestingPandaFace

I’d rather he went to bed than stayed up drinking and ended up shitfaced!
100%.

He shouldn't have drunk so much, but at least he's pissed off and won't make a tit of himself! In that way, I think you're quite lucky.

DrManhattan · 04/12/2021 22:53

Be glad he went to bed rather than carrying on into the evening.

ClaudiaJ1 · 04/12/2021 23:38

Um, he realised he had too much to drink, so took himself off to bed rather than stay and embarrass himself by throwing up, or drinking more or saying silly things/acting silly. He sounds smart to know when he's had enough. If the 8 year old wanted to go back with him, I'm sure they are old enough to say and choose to stay with you or go to bed.

What is your problem? YABVU. You should be happy he chooses not to embarrass you. He sounds very sensible, you sound irrational.

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