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Child maintenance query

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Jjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjj · 04/12/2021 20:15

Help! My ex has been paying slightly more than legally necessary towards our children but has told me that from January he intends to stop paying until the balance of his overpayment is returned/evened out.
It’s good of him to have given them slightly more than necessary until now but I didn’t save the excess just in case he changed his mind and unfortunately our children still need feeding and clothing after Christmas…I’ve been trying to ask the csa but can’t get hold of a real human to talk to. Anyone know if he can do this and if he has to o pool at annually, monthly, weekly?
Thanks x

OP posts:
Kbyodjs · 04/12/2021 20:21

I’m 99% sure he can’t do this if it’s been off his own back to pay more.

Danikm151 · 04/12/2021 20:24

He can’t just decide to do that. What a twit

Baker90 · 04/12/2021 20:27

Nope. He can't do that. Is it formally done through cms?

Hankunamatata · 04/12/2021 20:27

Why has he suddenly changed his mind?

Shmithecat2 · 04/12/2021 20:27

Has he been paying you via CMS until now?

Lasair · 04/12/2021 20:28

What a prince

BurntO · 04/12/2021 20:32

Does he pay via CMS now? If so no he isn’t allowed to do it and if it isn’t through CMS set it up now

HughGrantsHair · 04/12/2021 20:34

If he's been paying you directly with no CMS involvement then unfortunately he can do what he wants. Keep trying to get hold of them. It won't be quick though.

blissfulllife · 04/12/2021 20:37

I'm presuming he pays directly and not through cms? Just put a claim in through cms. He sounds a right dick

LittleOwl153 · 04/12/2021 20:41

If he doesn't pay through cms, just set it up now so he can't mess you about again.
If he does then yes report it as a missed payment - but I assume only at the point it is missed.

Don't tell me he was contolling / financially abusive before you split....

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