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Should I respond something to this colleague or just leave it

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Electricdreams22 · 04/12/2021 13:37

First of all I am sick of being phoned out of working hours and on days off but they ring until you answer
I’m relatively new to a care job, and a colleague phoned me yesterday on my day off to have a go at me over something.

I will say that the incident was in part my responsibility but certainly not fully as most people have been doing it, it’s something that could have been prevented by everybody but it’s certainly important that attention has been drawn to it as we were not aware of it.

Anyway, the colleague had a rude tone on the phone and seemed more annoyed by the fact that it was making her late.
I just very matter of factly thanked her for drawing my attention to it and hung up.
Should I message her anything further (in a professional context) to explain the situation, talk to the office, or just ignore it.

It’s a mistake that the office hadn’t picked up on for months. I was just shocked on the phone so a little lost for words

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DinkyDaisy · 04/12/2021 13:41

I am not sure. As you are new I wouldn't like to think you were being scapegoated for something that has been widespread.
Do you think this phonecall is the end of the matter?
Is she your manager?

Hankunamatata · 04/12/2021 13:43

I'd leave it. Get a phone just for work so you can turn it off.

Fet2021duejuly2022 · 04/12/2021 13:43

Can you get a cheap mobile for work and give them that number? Just switch it on in work days

WhenSepEnds · 04/12/2021 13:45

I would not answer on my days off. That just makes them think it's fine. My old work done this all the time until I stopped answering and then they knew there was no point. Now you're sitting thinking about work on you day off.... the only emailing would send would be one saying don't contact me out of working hours

Idontevenknow · 04/12/2021 13:46

I wouldn't say anything now it is done. But in future I wouldn't be answering the phone, or if I did and it was something like that, I would just calmly say you are not working and it can be discussed next time you are in work.

Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 04/12/2021 13:46

Get a cheap payg for work then shove it in a drawer off shift.

Electricdreams22 · 04/12/2021 13:52

She’s not a manager or a superior no. I just felt like she was taking out being late on me. I do need to just stop answering, I can’t believe they think it’s ok to do that

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Newestname002 · 04/12/2021 13:54

Yes to this ^^. If they are calling your personal mobile then mute or block them on that. As others have said but a cheap deal/PAYG mobile and give them that number to call you. Put an out of office message on that mobile if that service is available or just switch it off out of hours.

Put an out of office/your office hours message signature on your email saying you'll respond when you are next in the office. Block any number they call you from which goes to your landline.

Be consistent.

Good luck OP. 🌹

KittenCatcher · 04/12/2021 13:58

Your colleague should not be ringing you. If there is an issue at work then a meeting should be set up with the manager and the staff. Tell the manager you do not want to be called anymore unless its an emergency.

IWentAwayIStayedAway · 04/12/2021 14:05

Bring up at next staff supervision so that its documented

Lasair · 04/12/2021 14:12

What would happen if you didn’t answer? Can you block their number on days off?

Electricdreams22 · 04/12/2021 14:38

I’m definitely going to bring it up, and I am not sure if there’s a way to block them only for certain days but I’ll have a look

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girlmom21 · 04/12/2021 14:41

Bring it up to your manager and block your colleagues phone number.

girlmom21 · 04/12/2021 14:42

@Electricdreams22

I’m definitely going to bring it up, and I am not sure if there’s a way to block them only for certain days but I’ll have a look
Just block her permanently. If she needs to call you when you're working they should provide a work phone.
Teenagequeenwithaloadedgun · 04/12/2021 14:47

They've treated you badly since you started - aren't you leaving next month?

I wouldn't bother worrying tbh, stop answering your phone on your days off and know that you're leaving shortly.

You've had multiple threads on this, it isn't a criticism but is an indication that it's taking up too much head space and that you need a more supportive working environment.

vodkaredbullgirl · 04/12/2021 14:47

Ignore the phone call, I have a sim card for my mobile for work only. I turn mine off when I'm not in work.

vodkaredbullgirl · 04/12/2021 14:48

Not again.

KittenCatcher · 04/12/2021 14:49

I wouldnt block the office number but would block a colleague mobile number. You can get call identity on your phone or just put it on ansaphone, the work office numbers often come up as witheld numbers.

Cherrysoup · 04/12/2021 15:06

Raise the being phoned on days off, that’s unacceptable. Let the call go, tho, it’s not worth getting into it, but maybe worth raising whatever was wrong with management so they can tell everyone to stop doing it.

whylieandpretend · 04/12/2021 15:22

Just don't answer?
Simple

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