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AIBU?

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53 replies

Lagomtransplant · 03/12/2021 17:56

So Arwen did away with our garden fences on both sides of the garden. We live in a semidetached house and the neighbours on the adjacent side were as cooperative about fixing that side as humanly possible. On that side we decided to split the cost of repair 50/50.

On the other, detached side, our neighbour is an absolute madwoman, who was previously a topic of my AIBUs. Unemployed, kids in dad's custody/ss involved, drink and weed on a regular basis. DH and I decided to sort out the fence on that side on our own, for the benefit of our own mental health. We politely let her know we'd get it sorted, just to have patience as handymen were few and far between, as they are thin on the ground trying to repair all the storm damage.

We took time to go through quotes, WFH for 2 viewings and paid £££ to get it fixed. The workmen took about 3 hours today. Once they left, she had the absolute cheek to complain to my DH, who was tidying up our garden, that the workmen left mud prints in her garden (which is nothing but weeds and rat-enticing junk she can't be bothered to clean up).

It took ALL, and I mean ALL, of my self-control not to go over and give her an earful. AIBU?

OP posts:
buckeejit · 03/12/2021 17:58

Yabu for not giving her an earful! But also sensible!

Justheretoaskaquestion91 · 03/12/2021 18:37

Which side is your neighbour on, left or right?

Frazzled50yrold · 03/12/2021 18:44

It's difficult as she probably wouldn't have cared if the fence went up again or not.
You need the fence and the job's now done so well done on not rising to the bait.

Soubriquet · 03/12/2021 18:47

She probably would have found something to complain about. Least it was just mud. Should have said “wash it off then” and walk off

SoupDragon · 03/12/2021 19:00

@Justheretoaskaquestion91

Which side is your neighbour on, left or right?
That makes no difference to the fences.
KittenCatcher · 03/12/2021 19:06

Well done to dh and you for not rising to it.

viques · 03/12/2021 19:12

Tell her you have been in touch with the fencers and they need plaster casts of all the footprints so they can discover which of their workers it was and fire them three weeks before Christmas. They would also like to donate £5,000 to her favourite charity in her name and would she be willing to go on national television for a cheque donating ceremony to explain why the donation is being made.

Lagomtransplant · 03/12/2021 20:06

@viques

🤣🤣🤣

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 03/12/2021 20:11

”Ohh dear, neighbour - I am sorry that replacing the fence between our gardens AT NO COST TO YOU has left you with such appalling and traumatic damage!”

Justheretoaskaquestion91 · 03/12/2021 20:11

@SoupDragon

What? In England you are responsible for your right fence only.

Fatgalslim · 03/12/2021 20:13

[quote Justheretoaskaquestion91]@SoupDragon

What? In England you are responsible for your right fence only.[/quote]
I'm not sure this is true

McKesson · 03/12/2021 20:13

@Justheretoaskaquestion91
That's just not true at all and one of those myths that perpetuate. Your property deeds show which fence you're responsible for and if it doesn't, then you assume it's shared.

CoffeeRunner · 03/12/2021 20:14

Mud in a garden in December you say? How shocking!

Justheretoaskaquestion91 · 03/12/2021 20:16

Oh actually ignore that - apparently that’s just something with my neighbours…

Justheretoaskaquestion91 · 03/12/2021 20:17

Although I should check the deeds because one of our neighbours is a property lawyer and she has made us pay for fence repairs using that line and perhaps that’s not actually the case at all

Justheretoaskaquestion91 · 03/12/2021 20:19

Wtf don’t want to hijack thread but how do I find out boundary/fence information please

Twospaniels · 03/12/2021 20:20

[quote Justheretoaskaquestion91]@SoupDragon

What? In England you are responsible for your right fence only.[/quote]
Not always
I live in a detached house and do not own once single boundary!

hotmeatymilk · 03/12/2021 20:21

What? In England you are responsible for your right fence only.
How, when all of the internet is available for you to learn that this is patently bollocks, do you go around believing this to be true?

Justheretoaskaquestion91 · 03/12/2021 20:22

@hotmeatymilk

Read my other posts!

TheCanyon · 03/12/2021 20:23

@viques

Tell her you have been in touch with the fencers and they need plaster casts of all the footprints so they can discover which of their workers it was and fire them three weeks before Christmas. They would also like to donate £5,000 to her favourite charity in her name and would she be willing to go on national television for a cheque donating ceremony to explain why the donation is being made.
You missed the daily mail sad face article!
Twospaniels · 03/12/2021 20:23

@Justheretoaskaquestion91

Wtf don’t want to hijack thread but how do I find out boundary/fence information please
If you own your property you should have a copy of the title deeds with a plan showing your property edged in red.

The boundaries you own will have a T on them within your boundary. If the T is on the other side then it is your neighbours.

McKesson · 03/12/2021 20:23

@Justheretoaskaquestion91
Go to the land registry website and download both yours and your neighbour's deed plan.

McKesson · 03/12/2021 20:23

It's about £2 per plan

SofaKingKnotBovvered · 03/12/2021 20:27

@viques

Tell her you have been in touch with the fencers and they need plaster casts of all the footprints so they can discover which of their workers it was and fire them three weeks before Christmas. They would also like to donate £5,000 to her favourite charity in her name and would she be willing to go on national television for a cheque donating ceremony to explain why the donation is being made.
Lol Perfect 😆
TheseBootsWereMadeForSitting · 03/12/2021 20:29

She was nit-picking.

Trying to start drama over whatever she could.

You did not give her what she wanted.

You remained dignified.

She looks like a fool.

You win!

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