Xmas cards

[sadmumtoday2021]

Would appreciate some perspective on this please.

Son has been picked on in school by a boy for the past year. Both have Asd in special school. It's been tough for my son. Today the boy brought Xmas cards for everyone but my son. He was so hurt. When I picked him up he could hardly speak. It broke my heart. My son has already written a card for this boy and wrapped a little present.

So AIBU in thinking he should throw the card and present in the bin and treat the boy to a taste of his own medicine.

Appreciate any comments.

I think that’s fair enough (though give the gift to someone else, don’t bin it.) Doesn’t need to be a big dramatic display of “taste of your own medicine”, just a matter of fact point that we give Christmas cards and presents to our friends and this little boy isn’t interested in a friendship and has shown that by being unkind, so wouldn’t be interested in a card and gift.

I think it's fair enough to not give the present and card.

Beyond that though, is something being done by the school about your DS's treatment by this boy?

I wouldn’t have let my child write a card to the class bully. I also disagree with mumsnet and this boy would never be invited to a party.

Thanks for the comments. Yes school are trying their best but parents say it's just asd so it's been difficult. My son is having therapy now to rebuild his self esteem.

Card is in the bin, my son has now eaten the present!

My worry is not taking anything for the boy will make things worse for my son. You can't win really.

@FlickyCrumble

I wouldn’t have let my child write a card to the class bully. I also disagree with mumsnet and this boy would never be invited to a party.

Fair point but my son wants everyone to be friends 😕

I'm astounded that this boys parents let his exclude only your son.

That's proper nasty. How and why was this allowed to happen? Why did the parents and teacher let this happen? Like fuck would I let this boy have the card and gift now. Then again, that makes you just as bad. Tough one!

Did your son get everyone a card and a present?

That's awful that the boys parents and the class teacher allowed that to happen. Glad the card is in the bin and placed the gift has been eaten

Excluding only one child is a form of bullying and I'd definitely mention this to the school.

I might be tempted to still send the card to avoid any accusation of the issue being a two sided thing (or just send a card to a chose few rather than the whole class).